Often it is necessary to hear: the child lies all the time. What should I do? First of all it is necessary to define the reasons and the nature of children's lies and also to establish ""severity"" of this children's defect which by thorough examination can be not such and big ""sin""...
Instruction
1. Whether everything should be qualified as malicious lies? There are several types of a children's lie. First, such lie can be forced. For example, the aspiration to avoid punishment, to shift the blame on another, ""to get out"" of an awkward situation. Secondly, the child can ""shuck"", embellishing reality to seem more significant, or in attempt ""to change"" by means of lies the life, reality which for the child can be discomfortable and unpleasant. Thirdly, sometimes children with inspiration dream on various subjects. Imaginations - the most attractive type of children's ""lie"" which is rather an a manifestation of the creative beginning in the child. Fourthly, the child can lie ""to spite"", seeking to draw to himself attention of adults, including himself with the ""left"" and deprived attention.
2. Why children lie? There are several reasons. If to bring up the child in excessive severity, he will begin to hide the offenses, and sometimes - that it is even worse - to shift the blame on others. The adult for whom it is possible to slander the person in the future can grow up from such child. Sometimes children lie not to upset parents. Especially often it occurs where parents try ""to play upon heartstrings"" the child, to manipulate his emotions. If the child invents to himself nonexistent stories about family, think: can, your child grows with inferiority complexes? In the future such person can hesitate of the relatives, for example, because of their poverty or origin, trying to give himself for someone more significant. Anyway such aspiration to give itself(himself) for the one whom he is not has to guard parents. It is no secret, that many people that is called live life ""not"", and kind of live ""others"" instead of realizing that potential which in the person is put initially. And if the child lies to spite of all, it is necessary to understand that it is not a comic psychological problem which can grow in a disease and turn your child into the person with unreliable reputation, and even into the real sociopath.
3. What to do if the child lies? How to fight against it? If the child lies for fear of punishment, think: whether not too parents go too far and whether the coward, the intimidated loser and just weak, depressed personality who will not be capable further of responsibility for the acts and of recognition of own mistakes grows in your child? If the child ""embellishes"" reality, thinking out himself the nonexistent vital benefits, then it is necessary to think of how to teach him to appreciate what is. And it is possible, it is all about an unsuccessful environment, and then parents should begin with themselves, with creation of normal friendly atmosphere in the house. The child visionary lying ""just like that"", perhaps hides big abilities to creativity in the soul. It is necessary to send energy of the visionary to the correct course. For example, to present it a beautiful notebook for record of his ""imaginations"", dreams, plots. Or an album and paints that he drew that he according to him ""saw with own eyes"". Who knows, maybe, your little fibber will become the famous writer or the artist? If the lie of the child is connected with aggression, or he ""plays"" in the imagined reality, it is necessary to find for him time and patience. And it is even better - to consult to the specialist psychologist. Perhaps, everything is much more serious, than it seems, and consciousness, reason of the child is in danger, finding the first symptoms of a mental disorder. It is known that all mental diseases, as well as unhappy destinies, children find in the childhood. And the earlier parents will bethink, the it is more than chances to find the reasons, to correct errors of education of the child, and it is possible - to save it from a disease.