Each of us at least once in life came up against a situation when the habit of darling irritates. Especially often the irritation arises in connection with addictions. It is possible to solve a problem in different ways – to try to reconcile, not to pay attention, to leave, swear. But the most effective way of fight against undesirable habits is to try to disaccustom to them.
Instruction
1. Stock up with patience. Here it is useful to you as it is impossible by the way. The created habit hardly leaves even in case your wife is at one with you. Let's say she wants to change for the better – to throw to smoke or to take alcohol. But not always in its forces to make it. And you and even less so should be adjusted on the fact that process of disposal of a habit can take not several hours or days, and several weeks or even months.
2. Sort out a problem root. Leaving in alcohol or smoking can be connected with problems of darling. Observe her: when she undertakes a glass or a cigarette? For nervousness, for the joy or of despair? And maybe, with boredom or irritation on you? Try to approach a question globally. Look together for different ways of response to situations, unpleasant for it.
3. Look for alternatives to an addiction. Consumption of alcohol, smoking of cigarettes – all this the needs for oral pleasure. Besides the solution of psychological problems, process of absorption of a glass of wine or smoking of a cigarette can be very pleasant. Psychologists recommend to those who decided to give up a habit, to change type of oral pleasure, but not to cancel it absolutely. It will be so much simpler to give up an addiction. The oral pleasure, except wine and cigarettes, is brought by sweet, tasty food, sosatelny candies, coffee. By the way, increase in quantity of oral pleasure in a bed can affect the speed of release from an addiction too. It concerns also active and passive oral sex.