Not so much in life is things which injure as painfully as a divorce. It not only pulls down communication between lovers, but also disorganizes family. If you found out that your marriage will collapse soon, it is necessary to take everything in hand that to avoid it. Be ready that it is necessary to resort to drastic measures, and you need a lot of patience and forces.
Instruction
1. First of all, both partners need to recognize that between them the conflict was about to happen, and it is necessary to solve it as soon as possible. Often one of partners thinks that everything somehow will manage. It shakes the boat even stronger and does not allow couple to make the decision on correction of situation.
2. It is necessary to investigate the reasons which, perhaps, led to this situation. When you communicate and discuss your problems, remember what should be spoken in turn, do not interrupt and then there will be a chance for your partner to express the thoughts.
3. Accurately express what upsets you and why. Not always it is worth holding the feelings inside – it can only aggravate slozhivsheyusya a situation. Besides, it would be unfair to wait from other person of reading your thoughts and assessment of what you feel inside. When everything opens, you, perhaps are surprised as far as both of you did not know about feelings and perception of each other.
4. Be careful at discussion of sources of the conflict. Do not get to an infinite cycle of charges. Try to refrain from statements, since "you", for example, "you do not appreciate me" or "you sit at the computer too much". All this tell "If my work was appreciated that I would feel better, being in marriage" or "it would mean to me very much if we spent more time together".
5. After the source of the conflict is found, try to find a solution. Of course, it is easier to tell, than to make, but nevertheless it is possible. As a result keep in mind that each of spouses should take some amount of the responsibility. Everyone has to allocate time and make efforts to make some changes to the priorities and the principles.
6. If as a result, despite all your efforts, it seems to you that you did not approach the decision at all, then it is worth asking for the help the professional. The family psychologist works wonders and resolves the conflicts in difficult situations. He has an impartial look, he will be able to settle the conflict and will give the necessary advice as to you to avoid a divorce.