If in several years of family life everything becomes predictable and uninteresting, then spouses necessarily think, whether all at them as it should be. Not the most joyful thoughts and the worst fears can come to mind. The irritation can collect or arise discontent with each other. Earlier everything was in a different way. Whether the love leaves so? No - it is a natural cycle of development of the relations in family and a consequence of changes in spouses. So it is a high time to make efforts and to diversify your relations.
Instruction
1. Remember what was pleasant to you together in youth, at the beginning of the relations? How did you spend time? Whether it will be pleasant to you now? Will bring a variety your relations something new, or well forgotten old. The most frequent recommendation is to organize an appointment with the spouse, to spend time alone, communicating with each other or being engaged in common cause. Sense at the same time in devoting the time and attention to the spouse, together to interact and receive good result. If there are children, then completely it will not be possible to devote himself to the second half - kids require full attention and commitment from adults.
2. You develop, study new. Look for new feelings and impressions and try to do it together. But if spouse not so light on the feet, then tell him as much as possible new. Discuss different types of rest and a hobby. Do you monitor reaction of the spouse or spouse - on what eyes will light up what will be really interesting to both? Maybe you together decide to try alloy on the mountain river or to jump with a parachute, and can be will go to a concert of the performer loved since youth. Then you will have more general subjects for a talk.
3. Find the space. How the love was strong, long it is impossible to be dissolved in each other. Two as if begin to choke in the closed system, especially if one of them - the extrovert. The sport, hobbies help to retire for a while, to keep vitality, communication with people allows to exchange energy with others. Thanks to it it is possible to retain appeal and interest in the opinion of the half and in own.
4. Watch yourselves. It concerns both women, and men, and in respect of physical shape, and in respect of personal care. If absolutely to relax, lower hands and to carry houses, the dressing gown figuratively speaking greased day by day, to smell of fish then what interest from the outside of the spouse to expect it will not be come. Of course, ""popular"" once flannel dressing gowns and gaiters with the extended knees already were a thing of the past, but still modern variations on this subject meet.
5. You bring a variety and family the relations and absolutely it is impossible to delete it from life. Talk on sex - about what is desirable and acceptable. You watch beautiful erotic movies to light up and remember a little seducing, games and a long prelude. Often spouses complain that everything becomes ordinary and become boring in this thin and delicate business, but in your forces to bring elements of game, flirtation, an intrigue, i.e. to include imagination.
6. Do pleasant and unexpected surprises from time to time. Optional they have to be expensive and smart, it is possible also petals of roses unusually to bring, and to beat box of chocolates so that it will be remembered for a long time. The main thing that it was done with loving care.