Life – piece incredibly difficult and inexplicable. All in black-and-white strips. Take-off and falling, joy and despair. Of course, the unsuccessful strip does not please, especially if she walked on private life. Still yesterday the husband was with you, and today, having packed things, departured to other coast - to other woman, to the mistress, to that that dared to destroy family. Perhaps, here wine and husband. In both cases insufferably painfully, offensively, in a disgusting way there is also no place to a consolation. But this period needs to be worried again to become happy.
1. Cry, you whine, you shout – exhaust. Let do not disturb you. Remove advisers and comforters aside. Let all bitterness will pour out from your heart, otherwise there will be a deposit which will chafe feelings as an old wound.
2. Now, ostyv, try to find the reason for which the husband made a choice not in your advantage. Try to be objective - it is necessary in order that in a consequence to avoid repetition of mistakes. Perhaps, frequent scandals on a certain subject will become a grain of truth. Household difficulties, crisis of marriage life, discontent with your cover and behavior, lack of romanticism, passion and inclination, divergence of interests. You have to understand accurately why you left.
3. Take a notebook and the handle, write on a leaf what you consider yourself and what you see. For example: "I am beautiful, lovely, sexual, economic, harmonious, stunning! And in general, I am a good fellow". Attach a leaf on the fridge to glance at it every morning.
4. Busy yourself. Business, favourite business, a hobby, hobbies – plunge into them up to the head. Set the purposes and achieve result. If you have children, it is a high time to switch to them, to surround your kids with care and caress.
5. Remember all that was not able to afford, being married. A sit-round gathering in cafe with girlfriends, midnight dances, hours-long walks on shops. You have freedom - down with restrictions, the road to transparent dresses and kilograms of chocolate.
6. There is an expression: the worse at heart at the woman, the better it has to look. Indulge yourself, please, bring the appearance to perfection.
7. Now make the list of what irritated you and angered in the husband, beginning from the socks thrown into the center of the room, finishing with lack of tenderness and preludes in the bedroom. Think how many the negative disappeared together with this person. It is not necessary to suffer, adapt, please someone more. And whether you loved this man actually? Can do it only a habit of which it is difficult to get rid.
8. Throw out or carry away all things of the husband from the housing - any picture-frame-card should not you catch sight. Make houses shift or repair to change the atmosphere.
9. Learn to be independent again. Count the budget. Maybe time of sharp changes came – in study, work, career. Plan the days off for the month ahead that there was no opportunity to refuse at the last moment. Travel, walk, make important decisions independently.
10. Communicate with new people, you strike up acquaintances. Attend exhibitions, theaters, cinema – enjoy society. Call old friends whose phone numbers were almost lost. The close girlfriend, the sister, mother – everything will support you in any undertakings and will not allow to wither to such charming woman.
11. Do not think that you were thrown-thrown-betrayed. Consider that you received a good vital lesson which will teach you to appreciate darling, the relations, to rejoice to each in common spent minute. Learn to forgive and not to hold offenses, on the place of the husband there could be also you. Having met the half, you will step in the new future and will tear with the past.