News of treason of darling brings an acute pain. It is connected with the fact that the person feels deceived, he loses trust not only to the one who seemed dearest and close, but often and to all representatives of an opposite sex. And that it is even heavier, begins to seem that the world falls that everything is false and wrong around, and it is unclear how with it to live further.
Instruction
1. Do not torment yourself, at least at first while pain is still too severe. You should not accuse yourself that you did not notice hobbies of your darling in time, could not keep him from incorrectness, did not predict and did not prevent an unpleasant situation. Such self-accusations at the moments when the person cannot think objectively, as a rule, are exaggerated or are even irrational, but they are capable to lead to awful consequences. Do not destroy yourself.
2. You should not transfer a situation to all representatives of an opposite sex. If after treason of the husband the woman once and for all inspires in herself that all men liars, and they cannot be trusted, this installation, perhaps, will become the reason of her misfortune in the future. The same concerns also men who begin to hate all women for an error of one of them.
3. Exclude any communication with the partner who changed to you for some time. If you live together, for a while go to friends or relatives. Do not take the call, do not respond to messages. Not to burn at the same time bridges, tell darling that urgent affairs appeared, and ask several days you not to disturb.
4. Do not make scandals and do not make any decisions in a temper, otherwise subsequently you can regret about them. Make what helps you to reduce stress. It can be a campaign to the gym, a conversation with the psychologist or with close people, a trip to the country, etc. Try to distract for a while that later it is quieter to look at a situation.
5. Try to talk to the partner and to find out the reason of his act. As far as it perhaps try to keep tranquility during the conversation. You should listen to darling, to learn his relation to the arisen problem and to solve whether you are ready to forgive him, or it is necessary only to leave. If you carefully weighed the decision and accepted it after careful consideration, hold to the drawn-up action plan. Intend to leave – leave. Decided to keep the relations – fight.