Sometimes it is heavy to share the experiences, problems and feelings with close people or to tell them about the made decision, plans for the future. However there are ways which will help you easily and without shocks to tell to the family or the pleasant people of the intentions.
Instruction
1. If you plan to tell darling something serious, try to prepare him for future conversation that he was not stunned by heard in advance. For this purpose beforehand tell it that you want to have a talk with it. It is possible to designate the topic of conversation also. Choose time and the meeting place which will be convenient to both of you.
2. Just before a conversation try to put thoughts in order. Scroll those words which you are going to tell in mind. If you have a bad memory, or you worry, make the short plan of the speech.
3. If you do not differ in straightforwardness, at first hint the relative or the loved one about a conversation subject. Perhaps, the subject will receive continuation from it. Support a conversation, you are not silent at all. Communicating with people, it is necessary to try to obtain the maximum openness.
4. Explain why you want to make the concrete decision. Give logical or emotional arguments and justifications. If the interlocutor does not agree with the sounded intention, ask it to understand your position, to experience the thoughts overcoming you. Tell of the desires, but do not forget to learn what is wanted also by the second party. It is important that your dreams and plans for the future coincided.
5. If it is difficult for you to tell about the desires at a personal meeting, try to make it by phone. Call dear person and tell of the plans. Try to understand on emotional reaction whether the announced decision pleased it.
6. It is even simpler to express intention in writing. And by means of modern technologies it is possible to make it even anonymously, for example, having sent the e-mail online. If the message affects the addressee, you surely shortly learn his opinion on the matter.
7. Be not upset if your decision was not supported by the second party. Try to change behavioural tactics or be distracted by some other affairs and problems.