Unfortunately, not all find the happiness in youth and stay together forever. The modern rhythm of life forces people to hurry, to enter early marriages, to be mistaken and get divorced. Therefore there is nothing surprising that once you will meet the man of the dream having a peculiar baggage from the past in the form of the child and the ex-wife.
Instruction
1. You are not angry. It is not necessary to be irritated in vain on the past of the husband and on his child. Children need to be taken for granted. They cannot be forgotten and thrown out from life. Kind of the man loved you, he will not stop being the father. Therefore the best exit for you will be to reconcile to current situation.
2. Do not lay down conditions. Do not forbid the husband to see the child at all. He all the same will not listen to you. And if all of you deliver to the man some ultimatum, then wait that it or will meet the child openly and on the evil to you, or will begin to deceive and do it imperceptibly. Before that to forbid that, think and if your child appeared on the place of that kid. Really it would be pleasant to you that his wellbeing depends on other woman? Surely try on a situation on yourself before making some decisions.
3. Admit to yourself that you are negative to the child not because he in general is. The reason of your rage lies in jealousy of the husband of his former spouse. But their relations are finished, and he loves you. And the child for you at all not the stranger, on the contrary, - you have to be kind to him, this continuation of your beloved. Be self-assured and do not spoil life of the innocent child because of the jealousy.
4. Ask the husband to take the child to you home. Play him and try to gain his trust. It not only will improve your relations, but will convince your husband once again that he made a right choice. Also you seek to spend as often as possible time three together, otherwise your man will have a part of the life in which you do not have the place. Accept his child if not by kindness sincere then in order that your marriage did not crack.
5. Frequent friendly meetings with the child have to lead to your rapprochement. At this moment it is necessary to begin to treat it as to the new member of your family. Think as has to be will your children if they have an elder brother or the sister are happy. And communication of the husband with the child will give you confidence that at least one of you has an experience of education. And always you remember what cannot be deprived, let and others to you the little man, the childhood.