As it neither is bitter and nor is sick, but happens so that to mother or the father, and sometimes and to both parents it is difficult to fall in love with the son at once. How to cope with such situation and not to make mistakes?
Instruction
1. Present at least for a moment that it is not your son, and just the child whom regardless of circumstances, it is necessary to protect and protect because he is little.
2. Try to perceive the son as a particle of the darling. For this purpose at those moments when you communicate with the child, represent the soulmate on his place. Alone with yourself think what your spouse was in the childhood. If between you feelings did not die away yet, then it will be interesting to you. Ask also the partner what he was in the childhood and try to make out these lines in your son. Other question if you do not live with the husband and you bring up the son one.
3. You do not speak about your problem neither in relatives, nor with friends. First, many can ostracize you, and secondly, constantly speaking with other people about it, wishing to relieve cardiac pain, you will only rub salt on the wounds because such situation is clear to not everyone and not everyone can give a piece of good advice.
4. If you wanted the daughter, and the son and only was born therefore you cannot fall in love with it in any way, never speak to him why he was born instead of her. The child can become embittered for the whole world and so that it will be even more difficult to fall in love with him.
5. Communicate with it as much as possible. Try to see in it not the son, but the friend. Find some general hobbies. If you have no time with it to be engaged, write down it in some circle or sports section that your sonny could develop the abilities and did not feel thrown, being in collective.
6. If it is the son from first marriage of your spouse, do not try to represent unearthly love: children very thinly feel falseness. Try to make friends with it, to speak as equals. If you have a child too, at once pay more attention to him, otherwise "foreign" son can begin to be capricious if he sees that you to it "grew cold".
7. Address the psychologist that he helped you to understand this problem. Go at first one. Tell the psychologist about current situation. If the psychologist asks to bring the child or the spouse, invite them, but do not give the reason for a visit. It is possible that your fault that you do not love the son, is not so high as it seems to you.