The person takes loneliness hard. People reach for similar to divide with them experiences, to discuss events in life, ups and downs. However the number of lonely people grows in modern society. It is difficult to much to find adherents, to step over an internal barrier which prevents to communicate. How after all to find friends or the girlfriend?
Instruction
1. Be where there are people. If you do not live in the desert, a vault or behind a polar circle, then chances to find friends increase to hundred percent. Be ready that the person will appear in your life. Look narrowly at people around yourself. Be interested in people around, smile, express positive emotions.
2. Visit groups on interests. Go to a master class to learn something new. For certain there you will find adherents and friends.
3. Avoid a framework which you can consciously or unconsciously put. For example, the age, existence or absence of the spouse and children, monetary prosperity, a floor, concrete hobby can be such restrictions.
4. Invite people in the life, communicate. If the person is interesting, try to enter into a conversation, the relations. Be not afraid to take a step forward, you will lose nothing, but will get the friend, the girlfriend or experience. You will be able always to stop the relations in case they are uncomfortable or uninteresting. Be guided by internal feelings concerning that, to keep up friendship or not.
5. Do not assign all the expectations to one person. The friend is not the father and mother who can give to the child almost everything that he will ask. With someone from friends it is good to go to the pool, with another – to walk in the park or to attend fine art studio courses. All people different, not with everyone it is possible to have a heart-to-heart talk. Allow a possibility that the friend has the right not to understand and not to agree with your point of view. It broadens horizons, improves ability to look for arguments, to listen to the interlocutor and his arguments.
6. Accept people such what they are. You for certain have features or shortcomings, they are available for friends too. Reconcile to it in advance. Look for in people good, but not bad. Place emphasis on what is pleasant to you in the friend why cool and pleasantly to communicate with it. Sweep aside negative thoughts away.
7. Be interesting. If at first it is difficult to find the topic of conversation, be prepared for a meeting in advance: read the book, look at interesting transfer, be trained to tell jokes. In order that communication was interesting, create joint occasions. Ask what the person likes to do, where to go, where to spend time, and offer it the company.