Life is full of miracles, and, perhaps, the best of them are new people, friends and adherents. And it is unimportant where they live: at the next entrance or over the ocean. Communication on correspondence allows to study other culture or to tell about itself.
It is required to you
- - Catalog for letters and photos
- - A notebook or a notebook to write down contacts of pen friends. (You should not rely on the equipment, the virus can erase all information in a mailbox or the computer file.)
Instruction
1. Acquaintance in networks. Today there it is possible to find 99% of friends on interests. But at the same time it is necessary to remember that in network the ill-matched folk walks. And if it is impossible to check that the person exists actually, it is better to avoid such acquaintances, or to keep out the friend too close. In networks of the general profile of the pen friend it is better to look for in thematic community. But at the same time at first to look narrowly at the candidate for friends: as she or he states the thoughts as she or he expresses aggression. It is better to pay, of course, the attention to people polite, competent and with sense of humour. If the person is aggressive, emotional, uses too many punctuation marks (for example, 18 questions or 10 lines with points), then with him there can be problems.
2. Meetings, seminars, competitions. It is possible to find the pen friend at seminars, during the Olympic Games to which there come participants from different regions and even the countries. It is possible to meet friends at scientific conferences, creative competitions or projects which are supported by real people or the organizations with good reputation (for example, volunteer movements). It is the safest option meaning that it is possible not to doubt reality of the person. It is unlikely this friend will incorrectly behave, he risks reputation of the community.
3. Announcement in the newspaper. The riskiest, perhaps, option. It is possible to run both into the pedophile, and into the speculator, and even into the vigilant law enforcement officer who ""combs"" this Wednesday in search of criminals and their potential victims. If so there is a wish to write to the person from the newspaper announcement (the photo beautiful, and the text of the announcement tears soul to scraps), then it is better not to shine the data and not to send the photo in the first letter. It is possible to get a post office box. And at first to get acquainted with the person so.
4. To be an initiator. But before placing the announcement ""I look for the pen friend"" on an appropriate resource, perhaps, it is worth asking itself three control questions. What do I want from this communication? What can I tell the interlocutor? What security measures will I take before beginning communication? (In other words how to secure itself against others persuasive attention if the situation gets out of hand?) You should not deceive yourself and to say that from communication there is a wish for warm-heartedness and deep discussions on philosophical questions. Sometimes there is a wish, but most often people look for the second half. And at others there are a lot of palsy-walsy, but there are no eyewitnesses who could be trusted without serious consequences warm secrets.