Usually those who intend to give the answer to the question "How to Find the Suitable Man?" place emphasis on the first and on the second words and begin to give the advice directed to how to find by means of what tricks to find and, at last, where to find. And meanwhile the woman who asked the matter, most likely, wants to hear the answer with emphasis on the word of "suitable". That is, how to define the man who would suit her and physically, both on spirit, and on views. With which it would not be terrible "both in the mountain, and in joy". Psychologists open some receptions by means of which it is possible to find the suitable man.
Instruction
1. Comparison with the father. They say, each girl involuntarily, and at times just subconsciously, compares the partner to the father. If the father was an authority during a time of her childhood, the element of comparison amplifies. For example, if her father from taciturn persons, those who prefer to say less and to do more, then in the partner it, most likely, such traits of character as garrulity, fussiness, desire to please and make laugh (attention will irritate! – at the beginning it can even be pleasant). If the respect for the father and weight of his authority remained are unshakable, despite of years, the best exit – to look for the man similar to the father. Perhaps, so you will manage to avoid unpleasant surprises from the partner.
2. Make with it repair. In this council joke there is a share of common sense. Those married couples which live together several years behind which shoulders this phenomenon happened at least once, know about what the speech. Really, the real repair is as natural disaster, a cataclysm, and even war of two worlds. It very accurately defines who is who. Here or mutual understanding and friendship, or fight of two contrasts and hostility. In the first case – it is your man with whom nothing is terrible (even repair), in the second – alas … Psychologists half in jest call repair a mirror of the true relations of partners.
3. Test for pheromones. Pheromones call the sexual aromas developed by a human body. It is known that the smell of a body is inherent in each person. And the small vomeronazalny body (VNO) located in a nose of the person vividly "tells" the owner - this person suitable for it or not. Noticed? Sometimes, it seems, the man was also pleasant, and everything already goes to rapprochement, and suddenly as if some call in soul sang a release, and you leave from proximity. This is not your man. The intuition based on the pheromones proceeding from him made the business. Physicians and psychologists advise not to ignore such signals, they go from subconsciousness, and everything that there occurs, is put by the wise nature.
4. Be able to listen. If your relations only begin to develop, try to tell less about yourself, and mainly to listen to it. Encourage him, try to be surprised to nothing, show interest in his stories about yourself. Than you about it learn more, that more at you will be opportunities to make the idea of it. Compare the desires and aspirations from it, learn its relation to the events around, to money, to religion, to culture, to sex, to concepts of love and friendship, etc. Try to define, its vital estimates, priorities and the purposes are how compatible to yours. And now honestly draw conclusions.
5. Present for a minute that the man who is with you now nearby is your husband. Or that tomorrow the campaign in the REGISTRY OFFICE is necessary to you. Give yourself the honest answer to the question "Whether I Am Ready to Live with It Long, to Give Birth from It to Children and to Grow Old Together?". If there are doubts, analyze them. And if your answer to yourself after all "no", do not waste time, leave this man and continue to look for the real half.