There are situations in life when for some reason it is necessary to finish the relations. Of course, in the majority these situations are connected with need to break off close, intimate relations with the person from whom you test dependence. In this case you have to understand what depends only on you whether you will be able to make it. Psychologists offer techniques which will be able to facilitate to you this hard step.
Instruction
1. First of all analyze current situation and if parting is inevitable, be determined to break off the relations. Be exempted from desire to be favourite by all means, think what you are afraid of and what fears keep you from parting. Begin fight for their overcoming. Try to separate the personality from the identity of that person on whom you depend. Lift the self-assessment and you learn to live without an object of the attachment.
2. Begin to write the diary of your relations, describe the thoughts and feelings, fix the relations, analyze them. Re-reading it, you will understand what feelings direct you actually, reveal behavioural regularities and emotional reactions to the repeating situations. Begin to give advice to yourself from a position of the grown wise, skilled person, adjust yourself on the fact that you already grew up and became the strong person capable to live independently.
3. During this difficult period you most of all need support of friends. Perhaps, there is a sense to trust in several people, you again also will endure the situation again, telling about it, and to one person will listen to all this time with some difficulty. Besides, you have a chance to listen to several points of view. It will be easier for you if around yourself you awake to see people to whom your life is not indifferent.
4. Work on yourself, find to yourself new, interesting occupations. Begin with improvement of own body, feel its force and appeal. Physical occupations, bicycle walks, fitness classes and yoga – all this will help you to find harmony both with soul and with a body. Understand that it is necessary for you and separate the desires from desires of that person, the relations with whom you should break off. Begin to lead own life, to take care of the own life, become interesting to yourself and it will help you to become interesting to many.