On a long course of life different people meet, and at first sight happens very difficult to understand whether yours is a person. It is necessary to communicate, recognize each other closer. But how then to explain to him that your relations are a road to nowhere?
The reasons to remain
At love as many other feelings, have an expiration date. Unfortunately, the little will have the luck to feel love to a coffin., It seems, everything is quiet and good in life, but one morning, having woken up, you accurately understand that near you foreign person that the relations reached a deadlock - it is necessary to leave, but you do not leave and torment both yourself, and him. Why?
One of widespread pretexts - a habit. You got used to this person, know what to expect from him how to live and conduct dialogue with it. But on the ashes of last feelings of the relations you will not construct. Do not look back - you look forward.
Women are afraid to go to uncertainty, to the new man. There, beyond, unclear, as the relations will begin to develop, there will be take-off and falling, and here - it is possible, and is nasty, but beforehand everything is clear.
The greatest female fear - fear of loneliness. It concerns women at any age. Surprisingly, but many women cling to the man, as to the last hope even if, except abuse and mutual claims, anything else does not connect them. Such relations by all means should be finished quicker.
It is necessary to learn to love himself, to leave unnecessary things and people, to lift the self-assessment to due level.
Desire to be the focus of attention. All complexes grow from the childhood. Once nedolyublenny parents the girl compensates former lack of care by the present unpromising relations, giving to the man groundless hopes for continuation of the novel. It is necessary for such girls that they were loved and idolized by all acquaintances and unfamiliar men.
To leave and not to return
It is necessary to realize and decide accurately for himself that you do not want continuation and further development of the relations. There is a solution only one - to finish the novel finally without any reservations.
If you cannot understand yourself, internal torments independently, address the psychologist at whom on reception you will be able to tell the reasons of the experiences. And he, in turn, will help to understand your feelings.
Keep a personal diary in which you will be able to record all coming emotions, feelings, thoughts. Having re-read with a fresh mind records, you, for certain, will understand what you specifically want. Having decided on so important step, think also of the partner. Such things cannot be spoken at once. Be prepared for a conversation. Choose the neutral territory - some small restaurant or cafe, the crowded place where you will not be able to give vent to feelings. Try extremely precisely, quietly, without raising the voice, to explain to the elect why your relations reached a deadlock, and you do not want their continuation. Put the end: dispel all doubts that in the future the person did not bother you with calls and messages, feeding groundless hopes. Of course, after a gap it is impossible to remain friends, but try not to bring the relations to bewitched hostility. Not to break and to try to return everything, take the appeared free time with something useful: sport, yoga, courses of cookery or sewing, learning of foreign languages. Soon sick emotions will recede, and you will begin to live measured life.