The harmony in the relations between young people happens not always. Often the girl madly fallen in love and ready for any victims, and the young man just allows it to be near and absolutely does not appreciate it.
Instruction
1. Hearing a phrase: "He does not appreciate it at all!", many people begin to feel sorry for the unfortunate girl at once and to condemn the cruel and ungrateful young man. But often the situation is not so unambiguous. To understand the reason of this problem, analyze behavior of each of partners.
2. If you put the love above all and forget about self-respect, the guy ceases to appreciate you. Words of the author of popular psychological courses Ekaterina Prokhorova: "Fall in love with yourself, and you will be fallen in love by others" in this case are very relevant. Do not allow anybody to show to you disrespect and neglect. If the guy joked of you in an unseemly way, disrespectfully spoke of your views, and you are afraid or cannot adequately answer it, just defiantly leave the room. You do not bear humiliation at all.
3. If the inner voice hurries to bring to reason you: "And if it does not come any more, will not apologize? You without it cannot! Once it is possible and to forgive", do not give in to emotions. There is a type of men which initially selects to itself(himself) the darling with the underestimated self-assessment and ego-trips due to mockeries at it. You do not want to become "the girl for a beating".
4. Also other case is possible. Your partner treated you perfectly, granted each your desire, but as soon as you began to live together, the situation sharply changed. He became rude, stale and cynical, with former feelings there is no trace left also. The fact is that men very much are afraid to lose darling. Therefore so far she is free from all obligations, can leave at any time, refuse it, the young man behaves ideally. But as soon as he understands that the girl will not be able so just to leave it, becomes inconsiderate and despotic.
5. To avoid a similar fate and to force the guy to appreciate you, always remain to some extent independent even if you live with the to young people or married him. In everything show a measure. Be interested in its affairs, but be not importunate. Communicate with his friends, but you do not go to all their meetings. Give to the guy the chance to enjoy communication in the men's company.
6. Try to look good, keep always adequately and surely. Your young man has to see that he got the real treasure which needs to be appreciated and preserved.