In men's and female psychology set of distinctions. It is known by all, but quarrels and nedoponimaniye between the people loving each other do not become less. So, the woman wants to share the feelings, emotions, news - there is a wish to be uttered. The man has no such requirement. How get to talking your elect?
Instruction
1. Carry out preparation. For the woman the conversation is a rest, for the man - work. You should not throw out lots of news on the head of darling and to set a heap of questions, hardly he crossed a house threshold. It is rather simple to tell that you are glad it to see. Give to the husband the chance to relax and be disconnected from working problems, offer a dinner. And only after that begin a conversation.
2. Do not do long prefaces, begin with the main thing. Usually, when the woman wants to tell something, she reports a set of the details absolutely not necessary according to the man, and only then passes to an essence. But while you do the introduction, your elect "will already be disconnected" from a conversation, will lose to it interest and will not apprehend a thought of which you want to inform it.
3. Do not force to a conversation. If you see that darling is tired, upset, anxious with something, then it is better to postpone an important conversation. Besides, many ladies, aspiring get to talking the man, ask a set of questions. But such pressure leads to the fact that he just does not know what to tell and if he knows - will not tell from the principle.
4. Try to avoid hints and ambiguities in a conversation. Here everything is simple - men of hints do not understand, and sometimes and pretend that they do not understand. Therefore if you want something from darling to achieve, address with a concrete request. Also it is not necessary to discuss frosty winter if in fact you need winter boots.
5. Ask specifically. For the man the conversation is first of all the exchange of information aimed at obtaining result. Therefore they hate "empty conversations". It is not necessary to say: "Let's discuss our relations", such phrases frighten. It is better to begin with the fact that your way of solving the problem does not arrange and to offer you at once.
6. You say about what is interesting to your elect. If he greedily tells you about results of the last match, listen carefully and show interest even if you to the nichegena understand in soccer. But then in gratitude the man will be ready to listen, than matter in your favourite series came to an end.
7. Do not interrupt even if do not agree with the point of view of the interlocutor. In an important conversation let's the man state his vision of a problem and only then ask questions and you say what you do not agree with. Besides, stating the point of view, address thoughts, but not emotions. That is a phrase "I think that..." will draw attention of the man rather, than "it seems to me", "I feel", etc.
8. If you had a difficult day, you are upset and you want that you were regretted, you remember that for your elect just to sit and listen - nothing means to do. That is he cannot sympathize only with you, and will try to propose a solution. If you do not need it, it is better not to begin a conversation. Especially hard it is necessary to the man if he can help nothing with a specific situation. Then he will be irritated by own powerlessness and consequently, and a conversation.