Most of married couples, beginning to live together, anyway faces a widespread problem – the woman is dissatisfied that the husband does not help it about the house. Even if at the beginning of family life the man, trying to be pleasant to the spouse even more, tries to remove things, to dust and wash the dishes, then, as a rule, soon enough his enthusiasm abates, and before the woman there is a question – how to motivate the man to the aid on economy?
Instruction
1. To the man, to work on the house, the motivation is necessary, so you do not stint a praise. The man has to see that his work is appreciated – praise it for any action which it does in the house, whether it be mopping or cooking of food.
2. Do not wait from the husband of fast performance serious of duties if earlier it never did any things – give it tasks on the house gradually, for example, ask it to vacuum a carpet because you were tired.
3. Try to unite the cares with cares of the husband – do not force it to do everything alone. Agree that today you will dust and make a lunch, and he – to wash clothes and to wash the dishes.
4. Always reason the desire of changes – if something is not pleasant to you in your house, and you want to change it, explain to the husband that not so in the current situation. Only if he understands that changes are necessary, he will join in them. You do not press on the man – process of "education" can take some time. After all, you will notice that the husband himself begins to offer you the help with the house and does many things without reminder.
5. Never hint the man at his insolvency and weakness. If he cannot make or find something any thing, wait until he copes with a problem. Your untimely help can hurt his pride.
6. Never carry out his personal duties for the man and do not redo his work after him. If it was not pleasant to you how the husband vacuumed the apartment, you should not correct defiantly his errors – it can push away him from performance of economic works subsequently. The household has to give pleasure and should not bring discomfort – for this reason you should not "saw" the man and to say that it does everything incorrectly.
7. Have patience, be benevolent and joyful. Divide among themselves different duties, and some carry out from them in turn. Mutual understanding will result you in family harmony – and this mutual understanding has to be present at everything, even at mutual housekeeping.