To love foreign husband – it is all the same that intentionally and gradually to kill itself. In most cases there are no chances from the mistress to turn into the wife. And here the probability that you will torment yourself and long to suffer - it is very big.
Instruction
1. Carry out the independent assessment of the personality. Think of what you represent and what was reached in life. Remember plans for the future and try to connect all this with your new novel. It turns out? Remember that whoever you were to the relations with the married person, now you should forget about the feelings and to submit to his whims, at the same time winning not first place in his life.
2. Honestly recognize why you need such relations. If to feel necessary and favourite, then it is only illusion. You initially doom yourself to the relations without the future which not late to tear off.
3. Pay attention to yourself. Often the person, getting to certain conditions, ceases to think objectively and to assess a situation from the different parties. Possibly, so occurred also in your case. Instead of watching the beauty and to draw attention of men, you exhaust yourself with love for the person who uses you.
4. Break off the relations. But do it not in a rush of emotions, and after the cold and accurate analysis. Why so? Because on emotions you can tell that the relations stop, and then will understand that you have not enough forces and motivations for such act and as result – you renew them.
5. Be engaged in business. If there is an opportunity to improve the skills as the expert or to go to a business trip – surely accept the offer. It will be for you a drink of air which will give forces and determination to lead the full-fledged and independent life.
6. Master something new. Now it is a high time to be convinced of own importance and to achieve success. Be engaged in what there was not enough time long ago for. It will help to distract from sad thoughts and will give feeling of own importance because you will see own progress.
7. Think of positive. It is possible to find pluses in any situation and furthermore in yours. Reflect over that, what is the time free at you to appear, focus that now you do not need to sit and wait for it a call or a visit – you have the right to dispose independently of the time, does not awake you to torment conscience because you destroy marriage, and it is possible, and deprive of the father's children.