Psychologists claim that the offense is the aggression directed, first of all, to itself. Taking offense, we agree with what the offender accuses us of. And, therefore, we offend ourselves. It if this is not aboutthis is not aboutthis is not about manipulations of the offender who took offense sense of guilt. It is known that life of soul and life of a body are closely connected. And therefore psychosomatic manifestations of old and numerous offenses, as extreme degree of dislike for – cancer diseases. And, so to save in itself offenses – it is deadly.
Instruction
1. It is possible to offend the person only in case he wishes to be upset. Raise the self-assessment, you learn to love and accept yourself it what you are. God told: "Love the neighbor as itself" - so, a criterion of love for the world, people for each person is his love for itself. And it is at all not egoism, but means of survival because offending themselves dislike sooner or later appear in office of chemotherapy.
2. A good way of disposal of offense is the analysis of all circumstances of the caused offense. Only having used it, for a second do not forget that foreign, foreign person who cannot read your mind, emotions offended you, to expect your many reactions and in general – somehow to get into your skin. And therefore, be impartial. Take the sheet of paper, write a name of the offender. Then itemize in what his wine. You do not hurry, and consistently spend yourself through all the emotions connected with this person, your offense, your feelings, all circumstances under which the offense was caused. If you honestly execute this exercise – simplification will be such as though you got rid of heavy load.
3. If you cannot get rid of offense, do several times the following exercise. Close eyes and vividly imagine the offender and circumstances in which you were offended. Present it as it is possible more brightly – at the level of olfactory, visual, tactile, sound feelings. At what distance (your eyes are closed) from you your offense is? If it was represented before you on the screen, – in what part of this screen it would be localized? Now try to remember any insignificant, boring, insignificant circumstance of your life. Something, household – what you and values do not give to. Also arrange it on the imagined screen before yourself. Estimate your feelings, emotions, feelings in this regard a circumstance, its situation on the internal screen, distance between you. Now mentally move the picture on which your offense is represented there where there is an image of the routine and insignificant household circumstance chosen by you. Impose the emotions, feelings from boring "domestic squabbles" on your offense. Open eyes and look at three points in space before yourself. Repeat this exercise so many time how many it is necessary that the offense completely disappeared. There are usually enough three-five times.