Treason, as a rule, will painfully wound and gives a serious reason to doubt sincerity of feelings to you of your darling. If you cannot forgive him, it is worth trying to forget the traitor and to begin life anew.
It is required to you
- - subscription to the gym or the pool;
- - ticket in a trip.
Instruction
1. Quietly, without excess emotions analyze a situation: why the person changed you? Most likely, he betrayed you because did not value your feelings to it, did not feel rather strong love for you. Convince yourself that the person who betrayed you once at any time can make it again. He does not love you – what with him still after that it is possible to speak about?
2. Remember all shortcomings of this person. Its habits which irritated you, negative traits of character. He for certain afforded in your relations much it that it was not pleasant to you, but you suffered. And here is how he paid back you for your fidelity! So can, and it is good that everything turned out quite so? This person is simply unworthy you! It is necessary not to cry that your relations stopped, and to rejoice!
3. Find a new hobby or business which completely will carry away you, without having left time for regrets and experiences about the past. For example, sign up for foreign language courses, go to a trip, buy the subscription to the gym or the pool, etc. Accurately establish a side between the past and the present, learn to leave far behind all your negative experience. You have a new life now, and you will surely find the happiness!
4. Try to remove everything that anyway connected you with your former love from life. Make repair in the apartment, replace furniture, hide far away all its gifts, photos, etc. Do not visit those restaurants to which you often went together, get new habits. If you had mutual friends, do not try to ask at them on the traitor, on his present life without you, etc. Do not complain them of it or of the destiny, prove everything that you – the self-sufficient, respecting himself person also can quietly and wisely perelistnut the page of life on new.
5. Trace own thoughts. Work with consciousness is difficult, but is very productive. You catch yourself that you think of this person again. You do not drive these thoughts by force, the result will be the return. Just you monitor their emergence and presence. The result will pleasantly surprise you: you will understand that when you follow the thread of behind thoughts, unpleasant for you, they appear less frequently. For finding of harmony and self-confidence meditate, repeat vital affirmation, if desired practice yoga.
6. And one more important council: you do not hurry to look for new love, put your thoughts and feelings in order. Trying to construct the relations hastily, to the person who in revenge changed to you, you, most likely, get new disappointments because you will not have the real feelings. Give yourself time – let there will pass several months, during this time mental anguish will cease. Only after that it is possible to think of again to try to find the happiness.