He so much time did not appear, and now is on the threshold with a teddy bear under the arm and a bouquet of flowers in hands. Your heart without restraint knocks, soul tears and throws, and the brain quietly, but persistently whispers that it is necessary to restrain, get it together and to adequately meet the one who was the loving father until recently and then suddenly stopped being it. Listen to reason. It is still possible to correct.
Instruction
1. Accept. Just try at first to accept and listen to him. Do not push away, do not kick out. Try to be above the children's offenses. You grew up, you already have to understand that the world cannot just be divided into black and white. There is a mass of the reasons for which it could not come to you. And most important is a fear.
2. Regret. The fact that it at last overcame the fear and came, already adequately your attention. Put yourself on its place. Imagine in what confusion it is now. For a start just regret. It needs your support now.
3. Do not punish. You think of why you have to feel sorry for him if he did not regret you. Understand if he now before you, so he already passed all torments of hell and was punished. In your revenge there is no sense.
4. Support. Besides, if in you still there is an offense, so to you not all the same. You are dear people. Now you are separated by one step from reconciliation. Really you never thought of it? The father took the step. Be stronger than prejudices. Make the step. You will always manage to leave, and here to return this moment any more it will never turn out.
5. Talk. Use this chance finally to understand what occurred. Ask the father to tell about what happened. It will be useful for you to hear this story from his lips. Perhaps, all not absolutely as you were told by mother. It will help you to understand and forgive him.
6. Remember good. Remember how good were your relations with the father prior to their divorce with mother. Now, having matured, soberly ask yourself a question: unless its attitude towards you could be changed? Offense, rage, pride, pain, shock – each of these feelings separately or in total could be the cause that it could not return and look at all this time for what lost.
7. Forgive. You can find thousands of the reasons to tell "no". Also you will be every time in own way of the right. But those who come to apologize need to be forgiven. Allow the past to take a back seat. Important what occurs here and now. Make up for lost time: let the father will buy you 100 kilograms of ice cream which he ran into debt you during the absence.