Treason is heavy psychological shocks for the person. Perhaps, you several years in marriage, at you even are the general children. And here your wife makes this awful act. You are shocked and do not know how to live further how to build the relations with once beloved spouse. Most likely, you do not want to dissolve a marriage because all of you still love the soulmate. There are several advice which will help you to forgive single betrayal of the wife.
Instruction
1. If you learned that the wife once was mistaken and changed you, do not make quick decisions. It will be better if you leave for couple of days and you will not communicate with the spouse at this time. It will help you to put thoughts in order, to understand the feelings, and after to make the only correct decision. Talk to the lawful wife. Ask it to explain the reasons of its act, to regret deeds. If the spouse makes it sincerely and from the heart, perhaps, after a while you will be able to forgive her.
2. Think of the treason reasons. Perhaps, partly you also are guilty of it too? It is possible if you paid not enough attention to the spouse, did not show the feelings, spent not enough time with her together. Understand that women need not only periodic manifestations of love, but also attention, understanding and caress. Perhaps, because of yours indifference and indifference your wife also found them in other man, without having waited for it from you. But, of course, the fault can lie also with the beloved spouse. Having given in to fleeting hobby, the woman fell in embraces of the handsome man. But think, maybe, them do not connect at all such serious and strong feelings what connected you with your spouse. Most likely, it was only the physical contact.
3. It is very important to think of your general children. If you cannot decide how to you to treat the spouse, you have to put yourself to the place of your children, think of how hard they will apprehend a divorce of parents. Perhaps, it is worth keeping family at least for the sake of them.
4. Do not think of revenge at all! To start affairs on the party in response to women's treachery – the main mistake of men. It will not help you to strengthen marriage but only will destroy it.
5. Trust only yourself. It is impossible to follow blindly advice of the close friends and just familiar. Of course, you can listen to them, but all the same first of all it is necessary to listen to himself.
6. Even after you learned about treason from the beloved, lead a quiet and ordinary life. Have a good time, communicate with friends, you go to work. It will help you to distract from gloomy thoughts and as it is possible to endure treachery easier.
7. Choose the necessary recommendations for yourself and follow them. But never forget to make such important decisions independently and to listen only to the mind. Be able to forgive the darlings and relatives, but be always faithful to them.