Treason of one of partners can destroy the relations. However not always after such treachery the people leave. Some forgive mistakes to the soulmates.
Instruction
1. Try will calm down. If you follow the tastes of the emotions, the constructive conversation with your darling will not turn out. While you are in state of shock, it will be difficult to you to make the correct decision on whether to forgive treason.
2. Sort out the situation. If you are ready not so categorically concerning whether to forgive the partner or the partner or not, it is important to you to consider a situation from different positions. Kind of to you it was sore, try to understand what led to treachery.
3. Talk to the young man or the girl. Give darling a chance to explain what occurred. Of course, treachery completely cannot be justified. But, maybe, the heart-to-heart conversation will help you to reconsider the position.
4. Think that is wanted by you. Present that your novel broke. Whether you will be able is farther to live without this person? At the same time it is necessary to consider also opposite option. Imagine whether you will be happy with the man or the woman after treason, whether you will be able to forgive really.
5. Remember that a lot of things depend on features of your character and what relations reign in your couple. And here to what absolutely you should not pay attention in this situation, so it is the public foundations and stereotypes reigning in society. Do not think of what the person will surely change you once again, be not afraid that friends or relatives will begin to condemn you for excessive severity or, on the contrary, spinelessness. In such cases everything is individual. Think only of the future and be guided only by own feelings.
6. Keep in mind that sometimes both partners are guilty of treason. Analyze own behavior and think what mistakes you could make. Even if you will leave this person, the obtained information will help you to achieve in the future personal happiness with other individual.
7. If you resolved to forgive treason and to try to begin everything with the beginning with the guy or the girl, try to absolve this sin to darling really. In order that further your union was safe, it is necessary to try to forget about the incident. Even if at you it will not turn out, do not reproach the soulmate at all for what happened not to cause sense of guilt.
8. Strengthen your relations. Focus on that positive which in them is. Look for new general hobbies, you spend more time together. Pay attention to correction of mistakes which could lead to crash of your union. Do not suppress problems, and discuss them. Be with darling a part of one team.