It is always difficult to forgive, especially if it is about such heavy sin as treason. Because of it there are tragedies: happens that people who are created for each other disperse forever only because one could not forgive another treason. But here, of course, there is a question: and whether it is necessary to forgive in general, time she already looks on the left?
Instruction
1. Do not communicate any time with the girl though if you already decided to return everything after treason, then, most likely, this period of mutual silence already passed. During this period (it determine duration, more precisely, your heart itself will prompt how many it is necessary to be silent) you can consider properly a state of affairs, glance deep into yourself, understand that actually it is necessary to you. How many couples - are so much also situations, and yours is also unique. You will be able to be convinced that treason of the girl did not kill your love for it - or, on the contrary, that you to it have no feelings.
2. You do not force an event at all. She is guilty, but not you, and anyway she has to come to you. If you begin to act, will return her, will love still, without having shown her what pain it caused you, then she will understand what maybe further to change. It is necessary to punish her, but do not understand the word ""punishment"" too literally: not drastic measures, namely ignoring of you, your silence will be for her the real punishment if she really loves you and only stumbled. When you see that she regrets, it will be much easier to forgive you her.
3. When the anger, offense, despair already pass when you are able to look without pain at what happened, it is possible to come into contact with the girl. Just talk to it how with the friend, - if the love passed, then why not to remain to old friendship? Remember what everything began with, forget for a while what was then. If you any time were together, then you have for certain many common interests, the general good memories, trips. If you really want to forgive the girl, think of it. Do not try to revive at once former respect and former love (can be, the love and remained, but she for certain got some new shade), stay old friends.
4. Now you need to be defined: how exactly you want to forgive your soulmate. Whether you that she was with you as your darling again want, or to you friendship suffices? It is no secret, that love - feeling much more vulnerable, than friendly attachment. If you understand that treason was on love, that is your girl, hesitating to suspend relations with you, loves another whether then it will be better to let her go in peace and to forgive simply as person? Whether there will be you friends or will disperse forever - it depends only on you two. If you want to return it to yourself, then it is necessary to work much more carefully over the feelings.
5. If you decided to forgive the girl after she changed you, think also how you behave also what do you think of her. Unfaithfulness does not arise from scratch, everything has causes and effects. The girl who is gently loving you will not get into a bed to other person. Therefore properly analyze a situation from the different parties, considering both features of your character, and character of the girl. Treason (if it also actually was, maybe, on the girl just slander) is an alarming sign, and both partners should think here.