The husband changed. It always the huge shock (even if you suspected that so can happen), and many marriages fall after that. Even not because the unfaithful spouse preferred the competitor, and just because the reeled relations in couple did not manage to be restored. But if you decided to forgive treason to the husband and to keep family, so the decision should be carried out. How to make it if inside everything rages for offense?
Instruction
1. First of all it is necessary to cope with the emotions. If you constantly pour out anger and offense at the husband, to remember his adventures is in itself is capable to make the life family miserable. But also to keep negative emotions in itself – too not an exit. Therefore write to the husband the letter. Take the sheet of paper and in detail describe that you feel how you are offended what pain it caused you. Also do not mince words. Having added, break off and you will throw out. Or burn. It will allow you to give vent to destructive emotions and to be exempted from them.
2. Think of how much you connect. House, children, habitual Sunday family breakfasts … The set of important things and one million trifles – as would be difficult for you the friend without friend! Remember all good that you had. Turn over a family photo album – and, examining loving couple which you were once, you remember that it not "irrevocably left past". This your present – this person with you nearby, at you was so many wonderful minutes – and how many they still will be!
3. Try to talk seriously (but at the same time it is quiet) to the husband about his treason – as about a thing which "was and passed". Do not focus attention on the competitor and their relationship, but try to find out the causes of the event – and, maybe, in something to change the behavior.
4. Organize you with the husband small "romantic trip" - it not necessarilynot necessarily there has to be a trip to a holiday, both the one-day excursion, and a joint visit of cinema or theater, a lunch at restaurant "without cause", skiing will go... The main thing is to appear together in a situation, pleasant and atypical for both of you. It will help you to look at each other in a new way and to refresh habitual feelings which you to each other have. The love needs fresh feelings – and it is better to look for them with each other, but not on the party.