Not always the marriage union is successful. In life of people there are different situations. Sometimes just the decision on marriage was made early, and it did not develop. There are situations when our environment influences us so strongly that we are not able to continue the relations begun earlier. Partners change, human relations too. Our society does not look at a divorce so strictly as fifty years ago any more. But in many respects the situation depends on you. What it is better to leave or expel the partner with shout and scandal or to leave friends refined and peacefully? The choice always for you. And for those who for peaceful solution of problems, are several councils as it is easier to endure all this.
Instruction
1. The most important that needs to be acquired is nobody to blame for the incident. Of course, shifting of sense of guilt on all and all can make you quieter and happier for some time, but in the long term it is a way in anywhere. Do not undertake sense of guilt, it will destroy you as the personality and will affect the health. Accept a situation. What happened, happened. And just it is the best of all to invite the partner to the quiet place and to drink together wine or tea and it is quiet to talk about everything.
2. Hiring of the lawyer will be the following step. Let he will undertake all papers and negotiations, you made much as it is. And so you will have once again an opportunity to look at a situation as the transaction or routine operation with papers.
3. Of course, in such business as a divorce there are situations when just there are no forces also scandal any more nearby. Try not to arrange dismantling in public. And even if the partner will fall to it, be higher than him. At first to you it will be heavy, but later time you will be grateful to yourself. People can forget the cause of a quarrel or a word, but here emotions after it - hardly.
4. Try not to speak badly about the partner to children, parents and mutual friends. Everyone will draw conclusions for himself. But your relations ended. And if marriage was, means besides bad there were also good moments, speaking badly about the partner, you will cross out all good in the opinion of people around.
5. When everything ends, please yourself. Give yourself a gift, organize a celebration, be sent on leave, generally, create for yourself a good and pleasant memories. It though will a little restore your mentality.
6. And finally, do not rush back right after everything is made. Let yourself time think and to have a rest. Often it seems to us that the divorce was a mistake, sometimes this is truethis is truethis is true. But time nevertheless is necessary for you. For a start - to have a rest, then - that to weigh everything.