All of them still remember sleepless nights, the first words and clumsy steps. Remember the filled cones and children's tears, cubes, machines and fairy tales for the night... Mother and the father who were always near. But time goes, children become adults, and not all parents are ready to understand and accept it. To build the relations — hard work, but in this case the end justifies the means.
1. Articles on age psychology and dazzle with relationships of cause and effect between problems in adulthood and the wrong education of children. It is impossible to find friends — parents did not give sufficient self-confidence, failure at work — grew up too infantile person. Today it became fashionable, at least indirectly, to accuse parents of own mistakes. If your purpose — the harmonious and healthy relations with dear people, then you learn to take the responsibility for own life, with all its progress and failures.
2. There are two axioms concerning the attitude of parents towards the grown-up children. It agrees the first, mothers and fathers are always prejudiced to the daughters and sons. The second says that mothers and fathers are always conservative in relation to the changes happening to their offsprings. And it is not just a whim or manifestation of egoism. In the first years of life the child is very strongly attached to parents, but over time emotional return becomes less, more and more places in thoughts of the person are taken by other people. Therefore do not hesitate and do not forget to express the gratitude and love with words, kisses, those "sloppy sentimentality" on which small children are so generous.
3. Be persistent in the intention to build the life independently. Especially it concerns education of children and the relations in own family. Be most autonomous and do not demand from parents of the help. On the contrary, try to help whenever possible. It is silly to try to defend own independence, depending on the family financially. However you should not refuse councils of mother or father. First, to these you show disrespect and a lack of a step, and secondly, two heads after all are better than one. Anyway, reserve the right of the final decision.