You catch yourself on constant thoughts of someone. You feel that than you were busy, you cannot stop thinking of it. You feel the need for its presence every second. You need its approval or censure. Perhaps, you left someone, but continue to write it, to call, to constantly update its pages on social networks. Agree, this madness and it needs to be stopped somehow.
It is required to you
- In certain cases, professional help
Instruction
1. First of all you should recognize that you are dependent on someone that you are simply obsessed with it. If you speak to yourself – it is normal to depend so on someone, you will not be able to change anything in the life. Look at the behavior – one of the main signs of any dependence is that you make some act again and again, knowing that after that you will feel only worse. Make the list of positive emotions and experiences which you receive from thoughts or acts of this person. Now make the list of negative. What of them is longer?
2. Do you call the dependence love? Believe that it not so. The love inspires and pleases us while the dependence suppresses and devastates. Lyubov allows us to love the person with all his shortcomings while the dependence forces you to consider that you met perfection. The love allows your relations to develop and become stronger while your dependence forces the person to feel caught, obliged and causes feeling of rejection.
3. Try to understand that for you the person with whom you are obsessed personifies. Often we use other people as replacement to something that we want to receive from life. For example, if it seems to you that you hardly endure changes in life, you can be fond of someone to whom any changes are given with ease. If you worry about the career, you can become dependent on the person successful, self-assured. Understand, than this person so is attractive to you and you will be able to think that there are other ways to receive the desirable.
4. Splash out the emotions. Write the treatise about the dependence. In detail paint all feelings and emotions. Write with the handle or a pencil on the ordinary sheet of paper. After finish, burn this leaf. In this way there is a little shamanism, but it, strangely enough works. Represent that together with a leaf your problem also is burned to ashes.
5. Control the thoughts. It seems to you that it is impossible, but actually you just did not try. As soon as you start over again thinking of this person, stop yourself. You speak to yourself as Scarlett O*Hara "I will think of it later" and at once look for for yourself the business capable to take your time and thoughts.