Receiving satisfaction from marriage – a guarantee of stability of the family relations. On the one hand, the satisfaction with marriage depends on efforts of both spouses to achievement of harmony in all spheres of activity of family, and with another – is a complex indicator of satisfaction with various parties of matrimony.
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1. Each family goes the certain general for all through stages of life cycle. And at each stage of spouses expect typical problems and tasks. For example, the young family without children solves some problems. Appearance of the kid sets new tasks for spouses. And so on: in process of growing of children and aging of spouses the life will force family members to overcome new and new difficulties in common. Their overcoming will be followed by crisis and uneasiness for the future.
2. Successful overcoming difficulties strengthens marriage and gives feeling of satisfaction with life and family. The attempt to avoid difficulties, as a rule, leads to various psychosomatic, sexual and emotional frustration. Often necessary condition for an exit from a difficult situation is need of establishment new the relation between family members, distributions of new roles and duties, reaching the new level of relationship.
3. All changes happening in family subjectively affect satisfaction with marriage for each of spouses. It is connected with the fact that different people have different ideas of family depending on their personal experience and knowledge. Besides, as show researches, at the majority of couples in the first 12-18 years the degree of satisfaction with marriage gradually decreases. But then, after overcoming the minimum value, begins to grow sharply.
4. Most often are the reasons of dissatisfaction with marriage: too short period of premarital courting, early (till 21 year) age of marriage, premarital pregnancy, problems in marriage at parents. Also as obstacles to satisfaction with marriage are considered: negative attitude of one of spouses to another, different views on career, on distribution of the power, on carrying out free time, on children, on distribution of duties.
5. At young couples the following factors have strong negative impact: emotional or financial dependence on parents, different social status of parents, undeveloped skills of creation of relationship. The satisfaction with marriage is strongly influenced by degree of satisfaction with work, labor and financial stability, existence of own housing.