Very often parents, trying to facilitate to itself and the child life, make many concessions and connivances. It can only prevent the child in his formation as persons in the future. For education in the child of the successful and independent person you do not ignore the following wishes.
It is necessary to allow the child to risk. Here at all the meaningless uncontrollable risk of "Daredevil" does not mean. But to the child it is necessary both to fall in the childhood and to fight and to quarrel with the friend and to experience experiences. All this is important for formation of the personality without psychological deviations against the background of development of any phobias.
It is necessary to teach the child to solve independently the problems, some problems, undertakings and not to start instantly, carrying out on the first call them instead of it. Let the kid himself at first will try to act, and only in urgent cases it is possible to help him. Thereby in him the ability to correct the errors and to be responsible for the acts most, but not to hope that someone will correct them for it is formed. In the future it will not be.
It is not necessary to overpraise the child. Yes, many will consider that it will create in him self-confidence. But in adulthood he can face so-called "chopping of wings" and or will consider that all others underestimate it, or its self-assessment and self-esteem will sharply fall that is fraught with a depression.
It is not necessary to indulge children excessive encouragement for any actions (for example, the tided-up, excellent study at school and another). Such form of the material relations forms at children lack of moral motivation to commission of any worthy acts.
It is necessary to share stories about the mistakes with children. It will help them to develop the plan of an exit from unpleasant situations which can happen to them.
It is necessary to give to the child freedom in that degree which corresponds to age of the child. Often the intelligence and excessive development of the child eclipse his dependence, and parents mistakenly believe that the child is already ready to follow an independent way. Or on the contrary, too constrain his independence. It is the best of all to observe and be guided by behavior of peers of the child and their parents.
It is important to remember that all vital principles and responsibility are formed initially by family. It is necessary to analyze the acts and to behave so that at the child the subsequent model of behavior and responsibility as in family was developed, and being an independent personality.
Never forget, ourselves are responsible for what person will be our child. And first of all realize for the acts made by him.