Disputes and the conflicts happen in each family, somewhere they occur seldom, and in some families happen nearly an every day. But frequent quarrels do not promote establishment of strong family bonds. Gradually such negative atmosphere in the house will lead to family breakdown. The causes of quarrels can be much: financial questions, issues of education of the child, lack of mutual understanding between spouses and between parents and children, etc. But anyway it is possible to improve the relations in family.
Instruction
1. Look narrowly at yourself. Perhaps, you excessively often criticize the soulmate, the children. Constructive criticism is useful, but when it is shown in an occasion and without it, it affects negatively the person to whom it is directed. And you can even not notice that your statements or actions comprise offensive sense. For example, you laughed or syronizirovat over something that is important for the person. Here he also nursed on you a grievance. And if such situations repeat often, then the offenses which as a result are saved up can lead to deterioration in the relations. That try not to allow it less to criticize, abuse. At first it will be difficult, but at a certain persistence you in several months will notice positive dynamics in your relations.
2. Learn to forgive, make concessions. Very often people do not want to look for compromises as they consider that will look in this case flabby and diffident. But the family relations are not that sphere of life where it is necessary to show the adherence to principles. Sometimes it is necessary to forgive to the spouse or children their some misses, mistakes. Agree that silly to nurse a grievance because the husband did not take out garbage, and the child did not wash the dishes though promised. Sometimes it is necessary to be able to forgive also more serious things. Perhaps, once the husband strongly offended you a word eventually it seems that everything was forgotten, but the offense subconsciously remains all the same. Therefore to forgive it is necessary to be able it is realized.
3. Not to harbor a grudge in itself, it is necessary to discuss all disputable situations with the partner or children. In a fuse of frustration or rage of people can tell and do it what in other situation would even not think of. If it is offensive and unpleasant for you, then state it to the person. Only it is not necessary to shout at him, claims have to be reasonable and blab out quiet tone as then your husband or the child will understand quicker that they hurt you. Be not afraid to talk about your relations. If to nurse pain and a grievance in itself, then sooner or later she will escape outside, but already a type of scandal, and it does not promote improvement of the relations at all.
4. If you are too sensitive, then it is worth becoming more thick-skinned. It is not really pleasant to communicate with the person who can take offense on anything as any told word or the performed operation can be incorrectly interpreted. Your house will try to steer clear of you not to cause in you the next offense. And you will be upset besides that pay you not enough attention. Therefore it is very important to be able to control the emotions and not to react excessively emotionally to any word.
5. Try to be always in good mood. It is pleasant and easy to communicate with the positive person, with him simply there is no wish to argue, sort out any relations. Even if there are some problems in family, it is not necessary to give vent to gloomy thoughts that you do not suit one another or that your relations on the verge of a gap, etc. Try to think positively better that all difficulties of a vremenna and that soon at you in family everything will be fine.