It seems to you that in the childhood your daughter was more obedient and open child, could tell about the secrets, fears, dreams, and today something changed? If so, then the first step of your new relations is an establishing contact.
The daughter became more reserved, less talkative, does not trust you the secrets any more. And in general process of interaction with the daughter turned from joyful and easy into some unclear and a little burdensome.
If all these situations are familiar to you not by hearsay, then, most likely, you are the teenage girl's parent. But do not worry, everything can quite be adjusted, let's for a start try to understand the reasons of such behavior.
Desire of independence
It is quite natural that, becoming more adult, your daughter wants to be less dependent in the solution of the questions concerning her life. You need to understand that it is an important stage in the child's life, right now at it it is formed such qualities as responsibility (for itself, for the life) and independence.
But in this situation there are reefs: on the one hand – excessive desire of the child about independence that can lead to loss of any communication between you and the daughter; on the other hand – strict control of life of the child from parents that can provoke the serious conflicts and quarrels.
Formation of abstract thinking
At this age processes of cognitive improvement of the person continue to happen. In other words: if earlier your daughter could think only of concrete concepts, for example, when the word justice was associated at it with equally the divided chocolate, then now she learns to understand that justice not always means equality and that life is much more difficult, than it seemed earlier.
By means of a new way of thinking your daughter reconsiders all the last views of things and life in general therefore, it is possible that under doubt also your vision and perception of the world will get.
How to improve the relations with the daughter?
Communicate. Be interested in life of the daughter, but not from the parent's position any more, and from a position of the adult friend who can give a practical advice as he has more experience. For this purpose use time when you in common are engaged in any matter in a relaxed friendly atmosphere.
Stop on an essence. It is important to understand that your daughter perceives words which you tell, but not always shows it. Therefore learn to express the opinion, to designate your position on any given question, but not to impose to the daughter an algorithm of actions. What she will decide to do itself and at the same time will surely remember what you told her.
Listen. When your daughter argues on something, expresses the opinion – do not interrupt her. So she will be able to understand that to you what disturbs her is not indifferent. You, in turn, thus learn about her life more.
Control yourself. Remember that teenagers are very impulsive and if to perceive seriously each their word or an act, then it will be almost impossible to improve the relations.