The divorce should not become a reason for the termination of communication with the ex-husband, especially if you have general children. The friendly relations with the former spouse not only are not forbidden, but also can be excellent help for your new life.
Instruction
1. Remember positive lines of the former spouse. Of course, right after the divorce there is no strong desire to remember the person who upset you or offended. However without it you will not be able to improve the normal relations. Think that you liked in the ex-husband most of all, than you admired. It can be tasty fried eggs or virtuoso playing on a guitar, a lovely smile or songs under a shower. Adjust yourself on what your former spouse did not cast out, and the normal person.
2. Agree about with former husband meeting. To improve the relations in absentia it will not turn out even at great desire. Make an appointment in some park or cafe. Pay attention that the meeting place has to be neutral, i.e. your apartment will not approach in any way. It is necessary in order that also you, and your former spouse felt as equals in the psychological plan.
3. Discuss all issues interesting you. Talk about how you will organize time for communication with children as family holidays and the Birthday of the child will be celebrated as you will give gifts. Discuss a possibility of joint walks or trips to the country. Remember that the child should not suffer because his parents did not get on together. But also you should not cross through yourself too. Your bad mood will not bring joy not only to you, but also your child.
4. Adjust yourself on the fact that you want the friendly relations with the ex-husband. Report to him about the decision. Thank him for everything that it gave you. Whatever your marriage was, it became for you invaluable experience. Besides quarrels and abuse, at your life there were also pleasant, warming heart moments. Let your former spouse will understand that he remains a part of your life, just already in other context.
5. Maintain the relations with each other. It does not mean that you have to call up or meet every day. Just try to communicate on a friendly note, having forgotten about all half-words and offenses.