Any woman, gathering under a wreath, wants to avoid the conflicts with the mother-in-law. If all already goes perfectly - it is remarkable. But not always everything develops well. How to be?
Instruction
1. Try to recognize the husband's mother closer. That it is interesting to her, than she is fond. Perhaps, she has a hobby. If her hobby music - you reduce it on a concert. Prefers painting - invite in art gallery. Perhaps, it loves cinema? Then buy tickets in movie theater. There is a lot of options. Up to joint shopping. It is a fine opportunity to approach.
2. Common cause always brings together - means it is worth offering the mother-in-law the help with the house. One more general subject for a conversation will not prevent you. For the sake of happy matrimonial life it is worth crossing through himself and to take the first step on rapprochement with the husband's mother. It has to yield positive result.
3. Polite and tactful communication with the mother-in-law is one more your plus. You remember, she gave rise and brought up your husband. And the age her needs to be respected. Let it know that you consider it cleverer and wiser than. Anyway it is pleasant. There is nothing bad that you you will sometimes ask it for suggestions.
4. Be not afraid of the second mother. If you feel before her fear, you can instinctively begin "to be protected" from her. And this "protection", just, will also cause "attack". Be interested in her opinion more often. It will promote your good relations.
5. Make every effort to live separately from both mothers. It will be so easier also for you, and your spouse. Periodically invite the husband's mother on a visit simply to have a talk behind a cup of tea or coffee. It is necessary to be interested in its work, health. Ask, what about her pets.
6. It will be pleasant to the mother-in-law if you sometimes trust her grandsons. But it is not too frequent. In a conversation with the husband you speak about his mother only well. If the conflict after all was formed, never involve in it the blessed. It is unknown whose party it will accept.
7. Offer the mother-in-law any help. Do not forget about holidays and gifts. You do not flatter, always remain yourself. Insincerity usually yields negative result. Between the husband and his mother always you hold a strict neutrality. Otherwise nothing good will leave. You should not even try to be better than the mother-in-law. Mother for it will always remain mother, and you be for it a beloved wife.