According to the conclusion of supernumeraries, 25% of marriages in modern society break up because the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law could not make friends. Everyone because of women perceives the man as a blanket which needs to be drawn on itself. But as the popular wisdom says, it is not necessary to destroy the enemy - better to turn him into the friend.
Of course, sometimes the mother-in-law perceives the daughter-in-law as the daughter: loves, understands, accepts all shortcomings and in every possible way supports. But so happens not always: the husband's mother in every possible way interferes with life of young people, gives advice apropos and without cause, teaches, tries to re-educate children, etc.
How to make friends with the mother-in-law?
Meeting mother of future husband, try to make the most positive impression, surely bring a small gift or a treat to a table, do not put on and do not behave provocatively. During the tea drinking appeal to future mother-in-law more often to tell her about the favourite boy what food he prefers what is fond of music what sections visited during study at school and so on. The similar behavior will surely dispose future mother-in-law to you, she will understand that her son is interesting to you as the personality and that disturbs you all his affairs.
Of course, it is better for young family to live in the certain apartment, but not all newlyweds can afford it. If you came to the house of the husband, then it is impossible to try to remake at all household way which mother formed for many years.
Intervention in private life
Private (intimate) life is life of two people, that is husband and wife. Any infringement of it from the mother-in-law should not be suppressed. The attempt to incite the husband against his mother will hardly be crowned with success, and here straight talk with the mother-in-law will help more.
Ask council
From time to time consult on the mother-in-law in any given occasion, mother of the husband will feel demanded and the relations will change to the best. It is not obligatory to follow advice at all, the main thing is to let know mothers-in-law that her opinion and life experience very much are important for you.
Sincere praise
To cajole the mother-in-law, it is necessary to praise her from time to time, as speak, the kind word and a cat is pleasant. It is possible to praise in opened for tasty borsch or purely instrument apartment, for the help in preparation of lessons to children and so on, and it is possible to make more cunning, to colourfully tell the husband about all advantages of his mother. Be sure that the spouse will not restrain and will surely give your conversation to the mother-in-law.
We clash correctly
Sorting out the relations with the husband, do not entangle at all the mother-in-law and vice versa. Never you speak to the husband badly about his mother, she was the main woman in him in life before your emergence. Swearing at the husband, do it alone, without telling the mother-in-law any details. Building a conflict triangle by the principle ""wife-mother-in-law-husband"", it is possible to achieve only one – deterioration in the relations between all family members.
Why I have to?
Probably, many girls asks a similar question why I have to adapt to the mother-in-law? The answer is simple and obvious. You came to the house of the husband, you took his surname, and after all, the mother-in-law is that woman who gave rise and brought up your man.