skill of a dispute arose in Ancient times. And presently discussions everywhere: at work, study or houses in the bosom of the family. Therefore, it is almost impossible to avoid them.
Experts agree in opinion that art of a dispute surely has to consist of three main rules:
- All the time it is necessary to ask the opponent. That is nonplus him the interrogations. Thus, he to be confused a little and will understand that it not such and clever and that it is impossible to behave so aggressively.
- Conduct with it a conversation. Do not ignore. Such person very needs communication.
- Try as it is possible to listen to its arguments more attentively. It is necessary to regret a few such people. They are not capable to control themselves therefore get into a dispute.
Besides, psychologists proved that those who likes to argue too they: selfish, that is they are not interested in other point of view at all. Love only themselves. Besides, they use a dispute as protective reaction from attack. That is they are completely filled with various fears, alarms and tension. It for them as protection tactics for this purpose that suddenly did not step on them.
Also, psychologists advise not to defend the correctness. Do not prove them anything. Try to analyze a conversation. It inquiries need for this purpose that you could understand the opponent and be prepared for possible even.
Try to understand a polemic subject. Do not forget the main thing about it. Otherwise you will be able to miss completely even the main point of a dispute.
Do not forget that the dispute is a search of the truth. Therefore, be always careful and attentive during the conversation.
] Categorically it is impossible to become personal during the dispute. It according to experts will be already primitive quarrel, but not a dispute.
Whenever possible try not to interrupt the opponent. Follow the rule to speak in turn.
Try not to express the mistrust.
Conduct a dispute politely. Constrain the emotions. You will show these that you the well-mannered person.
Try, also to state the point of view. But for this purpose do not use emotion and gesticulation.
Be not nervous. Try not to strain. You do not show even the irritability at all. Behave quietly.