When the person is asked: "What is love?", it often describes primary emotions from a meeting with the person: flash of passion, adrenaline emission, etc. But, according to psychologists, the love has several stages. And the feeling that to the relations the end came not always is the truth. In reality, most likely, the love passed into more "silent" stage. Main thing: at a certain stage to keep respect and tenderness to each other.
The person in love draws an image of darling in iridescent paints, taking for the gospel all manifestations of character at a stage of courtings. The overwhelmed desires to be pleasant and win an object of passion, people itself also begins to believe that it is such ideal. Then, when all masks fall down, the man and the woman with horror find out that they live not with that person at all. However, instead of pushing away "stranger", try to study anew the elect – suddenly in him there will be many other interesting lines?
Not without reason say that the relations are an everyday contribution and development. To support a love heat will help several simple advice:
1. Leave irritation behind a door. Problems at work and other troubles should not be a reason for failure on close people. You want to share a problem – do it tactfully, ask council, but do not accuse the soulmate of all troubles.
2. Take care. Life is constructed on trifles therefore do not forget about small family pleasures. To cover with a blanket of fallen asleep, to embrace crying, to buy favourite candies on the way home or to replace the reached a limit shaving cream – it would seem, insignificant acts, however on set of such actions the strong base of the relations is under construction.
3. Do not refuse intimate proximity. The refusal without indication of the reason is perceived at the subconscious level as personal motive: "I am not wanted". And sooner or later the person will go to seek sexual pleasures elsewhere. Try to explain the reasons of your unwillingness – fatigue, discomfort, etc. Together you find solutions. Perceive sex as the best way of joint rest, rejoice to each caress.
4. You learn to surprise. Do not get stuck in the swamp of a routine and life, try to bring something new in family way periodically: new furniture, new method of education of children, new form of rest. Develop and change: hairstyle, clothes, tastes, etc. Notice also tastes of darling and try to correspond.
5. Respect loneliness of each other. Sometimes it is worth staying in the distance from each other to listen to internal desires. Do not impose the society to the loved one, you learn to entertain yourself, and then for you will reach, as for light.