Marriage is a sacred precept between the man and the woman. And at the same time sad statistics says that every year divorce rate exceeds indicators of previous. The general dissoluteness and perversity, promotion of the free relations, made the dirty deed. How to learn that the husband lies and in time to stop destruction of family?
It is possible to philosophize much on a subject why marriages who is guilty and who is right, but all this not that fall. The practical advice applicable in usual life, ordinary people are necessary. The subject of marital fidelity is deeper, than the Mariinsky hollow therefore it is necessary we will concentrate on one of problems which as a result can lead to destruction of family: beds. Darling everything begins with it, time told lies, the second told lies.
How to learn that the husband lies, the first signs
The unexpected aspiration is good and beautiful to put on. If to trust the words of the famous American lawyer according to divorce cases Merlin Stow is the first sign that the man had a mistress and you should not lose vigilance. But consider, this point is fair only in that, a case if you really notice dramatic changes in tastes and habits of the man.
The aspiration to keep the mobile phone always around – one more sign of incorrectness or the fact that the husband wants something to hide from you. Of course, it would be good that the pleasant surprise on a wedding anniversary or for St. Valentine's Day was it something. But as practice shows it is rather an exception, than the rule.
In principle between the husband and the wife there should not be secrets, literally this word. The western culture imposed us such concept as personal space, etc. But all this is wrong, well there should not be secrets between the loving hearts and all here. Therefore emergence of the password on a desktop, the hidden, protected folders and files on the mobile phone is not the normal phenomenon though who knows, your husband can does not lie, and is a secret agent of FSB. As you understand all this from area of a fantasy, and unexpected emergence of passwords – a serious occasion to think.
In a conversation of your husband often slip woman's names or a name. It is purely psychological feature of human nature. If your man had a sympathy for the foreign girl especially from your circle of contacts, then this especially will begin to appear in his talk very often. If to trust Siegmund Freud in that case to catch the liar for a sleeve, it is necessary to monitor his reservations which, according to Freud, have the serious background carefully.
Absence or sharp falling of sexual interest in your person. If earlier the husband tried to drag you in a bed at the first opportunity, and now this desire, somewhere sharply evaporated – there is an occasion to suspect that the husband lies. The truth is here one essential nuance which surely should be considered.
How often you refused to the spouse as you look after the appearance and what you had relations. So on the one hand the lack of sexual desire is an occasion to suspect the husband of treason, and with another, most to think, but whether you are the reason of such behavior. You remember relationships of cause and effect.
The husband lies what to do?
Just you read some of the most typical signs answering a question: how to learn that the husband lies? But as practice shows, the wise and attentive woman can and do without these councils as by nature girls possess a congenital intuition which allows them to feel wrong in the relations still before the moment when something is to change too late comes.
The first thought which can come to your mindyour mind as soon as you are approved in understanding that your husband the traitor also impudently lies to you: to make big scandal and to disperse from it. This the worst that you can undertake. Before starting resolute actions you should assess sensibly a situation and only then to make the decision. Continue to monitor all movements of the husband, pretending that you do not guess anything. Remember that existence of a lie is not obligatory sign of presence of the mistress.
Analyze the relations for the last year what changed in you what changed in the spouse? Write down the observations. Again do not forget about relationship of cause and effect, where there's smoke there is fire, and if your husband lies to you that he is detained at work, and actually he goes to drink beer with friends, think why it has no desire to come back home. Perhaps, you made some mistake, be not prejudiced in the analysis and it will be simpler to you to find a way out from current situation.
Let's note, girlfriends is in this case not the best advisers, you wash the dirty linen at home, try to solve your problems independently. When you collect enough facts to draw adequate conclusions, call the husband on straight talk and without scandal try to solve the arisen situation. If independently copes, it will not turn out, it is always possible to ask for the help the family psychologist.