The conflicts between the people loving each other arise sometimes very unexpectedly. They sometimes will painfully wound each other words, acts, actions. It is easy to offend, it is much heavier to apologize and forgive. Sometimes on reconciliation a lot of time leaves. But to be able to forgive - it is necessary.
Instruction
1. It is important to understand for himself that negative emotions and experiences press heavy load and destroy you from within. Forgiveness will help to get rid of this weight. Find the cause of conflict, your offense at darling. Perhaps, it is not so serious as it seems to you. At the time of the quarrel the people often exaggerate the importance of an occasion. And not always realize, can analyze and adequately estimate the events.
2. Speak offense aloud or write down on the sheet of paper. It will help to assess a situation, to look at it with other eyes, and, perhaps, and will cause in you laughter.
3. Surely "exhaust", i.e. let's themselves cool down after the quarrel. Do not make hasty decisions. Do not break the offenses at others. Change scenery better: take a walk in the park, you go on a visit, to theater... or in shop.
4. Find consent from by itself. Think why all of you still take offense? And, perhaps, put not so offended? And it is just convenient to you not to forgive? Or you like to be in a pose offended, and forgiveness will deprive of you this status? Or still, how the option, is pleasant to you sense of superiority over the partner? Ah, as it is sometimes pleasant to torment the partner at the moment when that apologizes.
5. It is necessary very much to try to understand darling. Not to acquit him or itself, and to understand.
6. Be not afraid to make a step of the first. It is much worse to live in a condition of offense, experiences, than to take the first step. Remember about volume good what connected you with each other. Present the man in good light. It is possible to try to write bad and high qualities of darling on the sheet of paper. Count records. Perhaps, good it is much bigger and you in vain take offense?
7. Do not consider forgiveness a heroic act or the act of complacency at all. You are going to reconcile with darling, but do not do him favor. Forgiveness is important first of all for you. You exempt yourself from moral cargo. When you forgive, feel much better, more happily, than earlier. Only readiness to refuse offense is necessary. Learn to forgive, and not only darling, but also yourself.