Self-esteem – important line of each person on which his success and level of satisfaction with life depends. The self-esteem – the more achievements and victories is higher, and the it is lower – the more failures and defeats.
What is it – respect for itself and how to learn to respect itself more?
The self-esteem is an acceptance of without condemnation and recognition of the advantage and value. So the respect gives rise to love and the positive attitude towards itself. Still is a satisfaction with the actions and acts, confidence in correctness of the business, the choice. And successfully constructed relations with other people.
Means, to respect itself is to be happy with itself and that, what are you doing, to feel joy and pleasure from the constructed relationship. It is no wonder that psychologists call self-esteem of the person a basis for his personal happiness.
Respect for and respect for others
And as the self-esteem assumes effectively built communication with people around, it has nothing in common with egoism, arrogance or arrogance. The person respecting himself does not consider himself it is better than others, and is able to interact with them so that it appears conveniently and pleasantly to him and those who is near.
What occurs when the person cannot respect and love himself?
He has uncertainty and a feeling of the inferiority, feels unworthy and incapable. It generates doubts and difficulties in all undertakings – decisions are difficult made and the objectives are hard achieved, the relations with other people cause awkwardness and painful experiences. It seems that all are ready against, offensive sneers and condemnation just about will be heard. Others estimates will strongly wound, and this sensitivity together with shyness and expectation something bad forces such people to avoid society. Though the loneliness does not give it relief – they are eager for support and approval, but cannot ask about it.
That is why it is so important to learn to love and respect himself – as nothing else, it will help to cope with difficulties, to achieve success and to derive from it pleasure.
How to begin to respect itself?
Begin with manifestation of love and care to yourself. It does not mean to smile to the reflection, looking in a mirror and to pay itself compliments though it is good if you do so. But confirm the love with business.
First, indulge yourself and make to yourself gifts. Grant the desires, arrange pleasant pauses between affairs. Get out to the nature – to the forest, on the small river or to the next park. Update the clothes, buy to yourself clothes at least, than time in 3 months.
Secondly, you watch over health. All begin to care for the health during the periods of epidemics or at threat of the beginning cold. Some still play sports. And on it the majority stops. But care of the body is not limited to it. To have a rest when you were tired and to take the sick-list when caught an infection, to follow traffic regulations on the street and safety requirements at work, to eat properly and fully instead of going on a hungry diet, and to walk in a lunch break instead of smoking – here that needs to be done if you want to respect yourself. Be sensitive and careful to the body and the safety. To respect itself – means to appreciate the life during every moment.
Thirdly, you give the time and the attention to members of your family. You the delightful person and you so love – so share a part of with the relatives!
Fourthly, believe in yourself and the opportunities. You are capable of a lot of things, you need to overcome the inertness and laziness only. You need business – be engaged in it, you look for love – begin to love people, many forces take away routine affairs from you – find the purpose which would light you, and go to it. Make it for yourself! How many times did you look for the confidence and force in support and estimates of other people? And they always were with you, in you!
Therefore, fifthly, accept and understand yourself real, without comparing to others and without condemning for failures. You go the own way and you are good in something special – appreciate it.
The person has to begin to respect himself and he can learn it as soon as he wants. Not at all it will turn out easily and quickly, but it will turn out surely.
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