Sometimes there is so, as a house – a full bowl, and parents of spouses are on respectful removal from young family, and the question of children still remains open. If you want children, and the husband keeps about it significant silence, it is possible to find out with high probability, having analyzed its attitude towards you and family values whether he wants children from you.
Instruction
1. Analyze your relations including intimate. Very important, how the husband if only you had no preferences about what you agreed with him in advance makes thrifty use of you. Tenderness and careful attitude it is very important to understand whether the man of children in general and wants from you. Of course, it should be taken into accountit should be taken into account also his temperament, but if you together already rather long term then already got used to features of its character.
2. Remember as far as the man was built and responsible at the solution of problems in family. If he (at least, first) did not address you or someone else for the help, then most likely, he is rather good future father. Communicate to his friends. If they estimate it as person decent and immediately remember cases when it came to the rescue to them, then it is a good omen.
3. Remember what relations exist in family of his parents. But even if his parents adore children, it does not mean, as your husband adheres to this position. Listen how he speaks about the parents when they are absent nearby. Excessively cherished child can internally protest against blind parental love, and this internal rejection usually pursues then his all life. In that case the husband can not speak about mother or the father at all or to remember them only in connection with some considerable occasions (wedding day, anniversary). If in his family there were healthy relations, then and it does not speak well yet for the fact that your husband wants children as there could be different circumstances which prevent it to perceive positively potential offsprings.
4. Pay attention to what relations developed between your parents and the husband. Usually after the child's birth the mother-in-law, sponsoring both the grandson, and the daughter, nearly settles in the apartment of young family that can not be pleasant to your husband. First, because the man ceases to feel comfortable when in the house constantly there is a stranger, in fact, of people. Secondly, if the man assumes responsibility for family, then to him, at least, becomes annoying that someone tries to shift a part of responsibility to himself, let and with the most good intentions.
5. If your husband grew up in incomplete family (with mother), then fear of responsibility for future child can affect his negative attitude to a possibility of paternity. Besides, if his mother not affectional spoke of the ex-husband, then and it could be reflected badly in the attitude of your husband towards children as he is afraid, as you, in case of break in relations, will behave as well as his mother.
6. If at you is with the husband it is not first marriage or it has a child, pay attention to how he speaks about the former family whether he meets children on the initiative. If you already have children, ask them as the stepfather when the husband is not nearby treats them. If children tell that he is not pleasant to them, do not draw hasty conclusions. Perhaps, your spouse subconsciously is jealous you of your ex-husband, but wants children from you. And if they nearly from the first days begin to speak to him "father" what he is only glad to, together with it play or do household chores without pressing, then be glad also you: your husband really loves your children and consequently also you. Therefore the new child – only a matter of time.
7. If your husband has younger sisters or brothers, at a meeting with them pay attention how they speak about your husband. If with sufficient warmth and without special discontent, your husband means did not offend them intentionally when they were small. If it has nephews and nieces, and they love the uncle, try to meet them more often. Remember that brothers and sisters always kind of compete with each other. It can suggest your husband an idea of children in your family.
8. Ask it about it straight, in family there should not be reticences on important questions. If he gives the conversation another turn or does not answer directly, it means it is not ready to adoption of such decision yet. Also do not ask it this question too often, wait, at least, several months before asking it about it again.