Parting with the partner - the difficult period in life. It is especially unpleasant if the gap happens unexpectedly, at the initiative of darling. If you decided that your relations with the young man have no prospects, try to leave beautifully.
Choose the most successful time. If you understood that you should not continue the relations, think over as it is better to present the fact of your parting to the partner. It is not necessary to avoid the guy or to meet him because of pity and unwillingness to take a step to a gap. Because of such behavior your relations will only deteriorate. Believe, your young man will feel that your feelings were changed.
Find the suitable reason of a gap which you are going to sound to the guy. For example, you can refer to the died-away feelings, to the fact that you do not feel relationship of souls. If it is impossible to beat beautifully the moment and to remain honest, think up a legend why you cannot be together. Tell that you go to other city or the country.
It is not necessary to shift completely fault for the unfortunate novel to the partner. Succession of events depended on you too, be objective. To save face, show generosity and do not behave as the carping, whimsical girl. Try to do without instruction on the partner's shortcomings. To leave beautifully, you speak about a situation in general, but not roles of each of you in it.
Talk to the guy. Choose a right moment when both of you are ready for a constructive, quiet conversation. Noisy parties and holidays do not approach to leave the guy. Witnesses of your parting should not be. Also you should not throw the young man online, phone or by means of the message, it went. Find forces to meet face to face. It is better if parting with the guy takes place in the neutral territory, in the weakening, romantic atmosphere.
Remember melodramas which you watched together with the guy. If in them there were parting moments with the guy, you can beat them. So your young man will understand everything without words. Transparent hints and associations with the sad moments will make your parting of some cult movie unusual and beautiful.
Announce the decision to leave to the young man and explain the reason. Do not hesitate of the emotions. You should not hold back tears, so your parting will become even more melodramaic. Remember all touching moments of your relations, the most successful appointments. Bring with yourself joint photos last time to track development of your novel.
Take with yourself all gifts that the young man gave you. Solemnly return them, having explained that they cause in you memories of the relations who were not fated to grow up in something big and light as both of you tried. If there is an opportunity, order the slow composition which is touching deeply for the guy, and invite him to the last dance.
Do not suggest to remain friends. This trite phrase will spoil the moment. Tell better that time will sort things out, and months later and you, and the guy will understand whether friendship is possible between you. Let the young man know that you very much appreciate his society, but cannot present it as only the friend. Admit that it would be sore to you to see how it builds the new relations.
Remember that you should not have sense of guilt for own decision. You are free to build the private life and to choose with what guy to be nearby. You should not exaggerate that pain which you could cause to the young man. Over time its sincere wound will drag on, and both of you will be able to construct the new, happy, long-term relations.