Rare families manage to live without quarrels and quarrels. But when insults and humiliations from the man become the main component of the relations - it is a sure sign of the fact that in family the male tyrant predominates.
Women for years can live with men who regularly humiliate them, offend and even beat. At the same time do not take any steps with the purpose to break off these relations. In some cases the reason is in so-called "psychology of the victim". Such people like to feel like martyrs, to feel sorry for themselves. Husbands tyrants often aggravate sense of guilt. Favourite justification of sadists – "You finished me before". Receiving a strict reprimand for each mote on a dresser or badly ironed shirt, the woman begins to think that she is a bad hostess and it is unworthy other husband.
Often women justify the passive behavior with the fact that with the husband tyrant they live for the sake of children. That the father is always better, than absence of the man in family. This extremely dangerous delusion. The boy, seeing mother who over and over again forgives humiliations and a beating, will transfer a manner of behavior of the father to the future relations. In fact you can grow up future tyrant who will force to suffer other woman. You not only cripple mentality of children, but also subject to threat their life and health.
Often women are held near tyrants by material dependence. And here it is necessary to understand accurately that it is more important for you. Self-respect and freedom of choice or life in fear, but without material difficulties. The male despot forbids the woman to work to enslave even more the victim.
The first step is an understanding that you miss an opportunity to become really happy, spending years for life with the tyrant. Think that there is a man who will appreciate and respect you. Will help to lift a self-assessment and to return self-confidence friends and the family. There are crisis centers for the women who appeared in a difficult life situation. Communicate at Internet forums to other victims of domestic violence. They can give advice, proceeding from the experience. Kind of strange it did not sound, but in male tyrants the tendency to a monogamy is put. It is so simple to release the woman they will not be able. It is necessary to leave most. Write the application to the police, file for a divorce and the section of property. Find defenders among acquaintances or law enforcement officials if you are afraid to sweep. Even having left the male tyrant, the woman is capable to have subconscious sense of guilt, for the fact that she threw it. Especially if the man has an alcohol or drug addiction. He will ask to return, will never promise to raise a hand and will swear that everything will be in a new way. Do not give in on provocation. Habits of such men do not change. Address the psychotherapist who will help to get rid of sense of guilt and psychological dependence.