For the married woman to learn about treason of the spouse – heartrending experience. Especially, when the family looked safe and nothing, apparently, foretold so sad event. How to live further how to behave in such situation?
Instruction
1. Jeunet who learned that she was changed by the husband especially if she impressionable, emotional, such minutes can seem that the earth crumbles under the feet. The woman strongly worries, feels betrayed, offended. Quite often pain from offense is so big that there is a temptation immediately to file for a divorce. But it is worth stopping.
2. Make the decision, having calmed down and well having considered everything. Your emotions, feelings are clear and natural. Especially as women in general more emotionally than men. However important decisions are not made hastily, in a temper. Try to calm down, get after all it together. It is hard, but it is absolutely necessary. Otherwise you just will not be able to argue objectively and impartially.
3. When the first, strongest emotions cease, answer yourself the main issue: whether you are ready, despite the caused offense, to continue matrimonial life with the unfaithful husband. Be most honest, frank with themselves. You should not consult on this ticklish subject neither on relatives, nor on girlfriends. Make the decision, having weighed all pros and cons.
4. If you feel that you cannot forgive treason, try to disperse peacefully, in a civilized way, without quarrels and scandals and to keep the kind relations. It is especially important if in family there are children for whom the divorce of parents will already be heavy blow.
5. If you are ready to forgive the husband, try to find the exact answer to very important question: why it changed you? Your family happiness and wellbeing will depend on the answer to it (and your subsequent reaction) in many respects.
6. To learn the treason reason – means, to prevent it in the future. Some women, having appeared in your situation, give in to quite clear and natural temptation to accuse only the unfaithful husband, and to consider itself the innocent offended sufferer. Try to avoid this mistake and not only establish the fact of treason, but also sort out why it occurred. Your husband once chose you from great variety of women, you for him were the best and favourite. Why everything changed? Try to estimate objectively the appearance, behavior, habits. You can frankly ask the husband: "What was not enough for you what I did not so?"
7. If you have an excess weight – start working out, go on a diet. If you were held too down, timid in a bed, try to be liberated, read books on technology of sex. If in your house there was not enough heat, keenness, mutual respect, introduce amendments in behavior, try to become kind, friendly. And then the husband will consider you the best again.