Now the number of divorces in Russia practically equals to number of weddings. Quite often after parting the spouses should divide not only jointly acquired property, but also children. Most often under the law they remain with mother. How further to live to the woman with the child after the divorce?
Everything is not so bad
There are situations which can be carried to the category ideal when spouses disperse amicably, without special claims and insults to each other. It is much simpler to live in a similar situation to the woman because, as a rule, the man gives it support including he material, and spends enough time with their general child.
Thus, their child knows that it still has mother and the father, they just live separately.
Of course, it is not so simple to begin life anew after the divorce even in so comfortable conditions, but to make it it is necessary. It is not necessary to despond and be depressed. Many during this period steep in work, spend much time in the gym and do everything possible again to find themselves, and leave the small child on care of grandmothers, nurses, aunts and so on. Over time the situation is normalized, it is necessary to have patience only.
Difficulties take place to be
Sometimes not everything turns out as smoothly as it would be desirable. Actually the woman remains with the child on hands absolutely one, without any support and the help. Then it is necessary to work immediately - to plan in a new way the family budget. After all the child needs to be fed, dressed and given it all necessary. In this case the most difficult is to find balance between free time and work. Some devote all themselves to professional activity and just do not notice what occurs around. Let them completely provide financially themselves and the child, but it is not enough.
The child needs to pay attention. And often parents try to compensate its shortcoming at the expense of expensive gifts, sweets, travel and other pleasant trifles.
If the child does not keep in touch with the father at all, it is not necessary to speak to him what bad person is his father. So in the head of the son or daughter it will be created a negative image not only its parent, but also all men in general. If the woman alone brings up the son, it is the best of all to write down him in sports section where the child would have a male mentor. The uncle or the grandfather can sometimes play a role of "a strong hand". To the girl, it is not necessary to tell a story from the category too that "all men svo.", she will think differently that she all men such, and will hardly find family happiness in the future. Besides, it is not necessary to put an end to itself: do not stop to watch yourself, try to look good. One unsuccessful marriage is not the tragedy, but only life experience yet. Perhaps, the destiny will provide you the second chance to construct strong family, and at children, thanks to it, "the new father" will appear.