Assessment of a material condition of the potential elect became the norm for a long time. The unconditional love can be even considered today as nonsense which prevents to satisfy the ambitions and career aspirations. But only the few dream to learn to love disinterestedly, understanding that the similar feeling is given only to the elite.
Instruction
1. Begin to admire your elect. Focus attention on his personal merits: kindness, mind, erudition, talents, to ability to make decisions. Try to take pleasure just from the fact that the person is nearby and gives you the heat, support and protection.
2. Analyze your relations with the man. If the material aspect actually is for you predominating, quite perhaps, this is simply not your person. Try to admit honestly to yourself whether there were you with this man if he was poor and did not provide you. At the real feelings the matter for certain would recede into the background.
3. Enjoy what you can give to other person, but not receive from him. It can be the breakfast which is thought over in advance a surprise made since morning participation in its affairs, attentive hearing is sincere. Do not impose the care: all your actions have to be natural. The loving person surely will want to make something good for you in reply. Derive pleasure from non-material manifestations of mutual love.
4. Present that you can lose the darling. Feel for several minutes as it is bad and lonely to you without it. In it the moment any thoughts of material will for certain not be relevant. Think of how you will regret that you did not give yourself freedom to love this man disinterestedly.
5. Remember that unconditional love today – a big rarity. Almost any marriage consists with strict calculation: future housing, joint budget, cost of gifts. Perhaps, in such approach there is the truth. Moreover, many will apprehend with condemnation your unconditional love to the man, the similar luxury is available to not everyone. If you are capable of similar feeling, enjoy this feeling. You appreciate feeling in itself and do not allow it to thaw under cargo of material problems.