All of us have habits – harmless or strange, what is stirred and which help; some take away time, and sometimes – health, others on the contrary – save forces and nerves.
For example, daily to do exercises, to use good skin and body care products, to plan the affairs, not to put anything away for later is useful habits. And harmful – to smoke, eat in front of the TV and to go to bed, lie down late in a bed "still slightly" after an alarm clock signal (but it did not happen to you to fall asleep unintentionally because of such habit?), and still – long to stir by phone...
These habits operate us. We do not notice it and automatically we repeat the same actions though they complicate our life and steal time, energy and cheerfulness. No, we periodically make the decision from them to get rid and begin everything in a different way as it is necessary … But addictions so just are not given. Pulls the smoker to cigarettes, the unorganized person throws planning, the sluggard will not learn to get up a bit earlier in any way …
What should I do: councils of psychologists
Way first is to show strong-willed effort and not to give in to more any temptations. And to say goodbye to a bad habit it was easier, you remember: all new is fixed in our consciousness in 21 days. Suffer only 3 weeks, psychologists say, and you will begin to do it automatically. Everything is quite simple.
The second – to understand why you need your habit. For example, if you smoke, then not just like that and in order that:
- not to do work (smoke break);
- to take a timeout in a difficult situation (you think, you collect the thoughts while you smoke);
- to leave from an unpleasant conversation (you leave the room to smoke);
- or on the contrary to communicate (and you smoke for the company), etc.
You got used to act so in similar situations and when they come – you automatically try to keep step with a cigarette. And to win against this habit – it is necessary to deal with the motives.
The third reception – the most interesting. It is not necessary to struggle with himself and to inhibit the desires. Continue to do that got used, but do now – with pleasure and pleasure. Yes you it seems also do it just because it is pleasant to you.
But see to yourself – unless you watch the feelings, unless enjoy every moment? Most likely, no. Possibly, you smoke on the run or somewhere in a smoking-room where there is nothing to breathe, or run out on the landing where it is cold and uncomfortable, or produce smoke in an open window, hurrying that not "air in the apartment stank of tobacco" … And if you got used to chew constantly something – you always notice taste and a smell of food? Or you chew automatically, talking or looking in the TV, being sprinkled with crumbs, soiling hands and clothes because to you it is inconvenient, or perhaps you eat on the run, having bought something in the nearest eatery?
We change minus for plus
Choose some habit which disturbs you long ago and think: how can you show love and respect for yourself, doing the same? If you got used to do everything hurriedly, to be rude, smoke or drink beer – turn this action into process which brings pleasure. For example, that if now you smoke only expensive cigars or a pipe? How will you feel? How will you behave? Where will you do it? Present: smoking turns into a beautiful ritual, it is impossible to present how the person hasty smokes a pipe before the closed bus door that throwing out it, to jump in salon and to exhale smoke in a face to passengers.
So, create, think up a ritual which will be pleasant to you. The ritual – is similar to meditation and if you smoke, meditating, then benefit more, than harm from this process.
Hold your horses. Be not distracted by anything. Plunge into feelings, enjoy. Also believe, you will be sated with impressions, savouring them, and it will not be required to you more, than one cigarette if feelings bring you pleasure. You wholly enjoy one cigar, one cake, one cup of coffee, but good which you will drink drinks, gradually, not in a volley. Then you will not want to look vulgarly any more, you will not begin to smoke if special conditions are not created. Check as it works!
Perhaps, your environment will not support you, will not understand. Perhaps, you will begin to notice other people people who will become closer to you. And maybe, thanks to one your habit also your life will change.
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