Most councils how to adjust family life, come down to the fact that it is necessary to adapt to each other when you already in marriage. We will begin with another: still before the groom will marry you, wonder – and it is necessary to you? The family - business good, but is worth building family life with the person suitable for you. It is important as the family is, ideally, for the rest of life and when the time of the first romanticism passes, on its place should not appear deaf irritation.
Instruction
1. Pay attention to that how potential groom willingly complies with your requests and is ready to move towards your desires. If, as a rule, he "forgets" about your requests, makes of them light, pleads instead of making about what you ask, think whether long you sustain such attitude towards yourself. The most frequent female mistake is to hope that the man can be changed. Actually, at absence at the man of desire to change, it is a deadlock way.
2. The respect means observance of certain rules on the relation to each other. At home the ban on swear words is welcomed: everything that wants to be told, can be expressed without mat and "strong expressions". Energetically these words badly affect people and the relations even if do not treat directly the interlocutor. In a quarrel it is also impossible to dare to call each other. The quarrel will take place, and epithets with which you were awarded by the spouse and which were afforded by you can be never forgotten.
3. Fidelity – the most important element of strong family. Some families practice so-called "open" marriage when neither the husband, nor the wife are loyal each other, one of spouses sometimes changes, and another is quietly reconciled with it. It is reconciled, as a rule, more dependent, weak, vulnerable, often socially unprotected. It is reconciled because loves, feels the dependence, one is afraid to remain, is afraid to be left without money, considers that he will not cope with education of children alone. The woman, than the man is more often reconciled though also situations when the man is reconciled are frequent. The incorrectness separates spouses and forever undermines confidence between them. Even if after treason family life proceeds, psychologically it is not life of two halves of each other, but life of two people alone any more.
4. Care. When the relations only begin to develop, the romanticism and passion are very strong, and care of darling is perceived as a part of the romantic relations. Over the years the relations between spouses are counterbalanced, often speak "there was a love, became - a habit", and, it seems, the majority agrees that it is normal. Actually, if touching care about each other remains, then also the love will remain. Care and in serious things, and in trifles is that eternal flame which will not allow love to cool down.
5. Family life cannot go always without a hitch, some disagreements appear from time to time. In such cases the psychologists advise not to suppress a problem, and to discuss it with the spouse. If in your family it is accepted to share sincere experiences and to listen to each other, all problems will find the solution, and spouses each other will only become closer and more native every year.