It becomes frequent an object of the majority of family quarrels the mother-in-law. The wife and mother cannot find a common language, go obstinate and try in all ways to gain a victory one above another. The most terrible that such wars can not only spoil the relations in family but also to become the cause of a divorce. An optimal variant of preservation of happiness is the attempt to make friends with the mother-in-law even if in it there is no sincerity.
Instruction
1. First of all try to try to understand the mother-in-law. Speaking in images, put yourself on its place. Think what relations you would like to improve with the daughter-in-law. It is quite probable that the woman lacks attention, she worries about life of the son or it just has no own hobbies with which it is possible to take free time. The main thing that from you it is required - to be the most friendly. Try to establish the reasons for which communication does not give you pleasure.
2. Try to find a hobby for the mother-in-law that she had less time for intervention in your life. For example, if the woman loves garden plants, get rare grades of flowers in shop and present them, without waiting for a holiday. If the mother-in-law loves detective stories, present her a collection of favourite works in printing option or in a video format.
3. The praise is capable to melt any heart, therefore the thicket should giving the mother-in-law compliments. You praise its culinary abilities, note sense of taste in selection of clothes, you speak about importance of its councils. In this case it is worth understanding a difference between a praise and performance of councils. You can admire wise decisions of the woman, but follow them absolutely optional.
4. Most of mothers-in-law regard daughters-in-law as a peculiar threat. Try to break down this stereotype and be most sociable. Discuss the latest news with the mother-in-law, be interested in her life, tell about what new occurs at you. The woman has to feel that she is loved, respect and appreciate.
5. Try not to show the negative emotions at communication with the mother-in-law. If the woman offended you a sharp remark, do not hurry to speak to her about it in eyes. Pretend that nothing was heard. Gradually the mother-in-law will cease to comment on your acts, seeing that the result cannot achieve.
6. The most widespread error of most of daughters-in-law - the complaint to husbands. Never practice such behavior. Otherwise the man can refuse communication both with the mother, and with you. Very seldom husbands participate in reconciliation of two beloveds, and constant complaints will only spoil an impression about you.