The ability in time to keep silent is the advantage which very few people possess. My language — my enemy. Not for nothing in old times the people thought up such saying. To find the necessary balance between silence and protection of the opinion — difficult science.
How often most of people regrets for told. How many grief it is possible to cause offensive even if a truthful word. Pits fall, married couples leave because of the words told in a temper. It is possible to apologize as much as necessary and to tear the hair, but any more not to return back a word.
Difficult, it is almost impossible to control itself constantly. But there is a number of situations in which it is necessary to keep coolness and to estimate the words. If you were involved in a conflict situation, then it is necessary to realize that under the influence of the moment you can tell superfluous. Under the influence of a minute rush the people hang up evil labels, remember weak points of the opponent. If you appeared in a similar situation, stop. Take a break, go to other room, to the bathroom. It is possible to wash water or to make tea, to take a timeout. It will help you to look soberly at a quarrel and even to finish it.
Sometimes, beginning the next speech, think of that why to you it. What aim do you pursue? Perhaps, at you simply bad mood and you try to splash out a negative on the loved one. Guarantee of happy marriage — ability in time to become silent. It is better to look for other opportunities to remove the irritation. There is a mass of ways - a hot bathtub, sports activities, a glass of wine, there is a lot of options. If such situations happen often, make the list of such ""antidotes"" and use it. Having come from work with bad mood, better at once tell about it to relatives and ask them to leave you one for some time.
However continuous silence borders on isolation. Also it is fraught with spinelessness and inability for itself to stand. As shows life, it is necessary to find golden mean. You are an owner of the life and have to be able to be self-controlled.
The ability to operate the emotions is worth a lot. Sometimes it should study all life. If you too emotional person, then can use it your foes. Can play on mood of the person many therefore be attentive and you do not become an object of such people. Zden only the attentiveness and a little practice is necessary.